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2023.05.28 06:44 ThrowRWayAH Am i selfish for not wanting my partner to go on a trip without me?

I (24F) and my boyfriend Alex (25M) have been together about 2 years, we live together right now in essentially a studio with my 4yo (prior relationship) and our 3 dogs currently. I recently found out I was expecting which has been a roller coaster. (This is important background info)
On Wednesday Alex told me his father was going to the coast for holiday, he stated he was not going as we had too much going on and he just went out town last weekend to visit his brothers and mom. I expressed to him I wouldn’t be comfortable alone and would prefer he stayed too.
The next day, he tells me he is going to go, and we can go on another trip next weekend. We argue because I lost my mom the day before Mothers Day and have been too busy to take a moment to grieve, and also because of finances and not being able to afford a trip while we are saving to buy a house. We end up falling asleep early.
The next day he wakes me up at 7am and is packing to leave, I tell him if he goes that is a deal breaker and I’ll be moving out. Alex tells me I am using my mom to guilt trip him into staying, the argument gets worse and I just keep reiterating I need more support right now, he works M-F and basically just comes home to shower and sleep, he didn’t even wish me a happy Mother’s Day or spend time with me. Next weekend he’s gone, this weekend he’s gone too and I’m expected to take care of 3 large dogs and a toddler while coping with the loss of my mother. His defense was his fathers getting up in age (he’s not that old) and basically my mom made him realize he might not have much time left. He keeps insisting I am the AH for trying to make him stay, and I’m being selfish for not wanting him to spend time for his dad. Im starting to second guess myself here and am trying to explain this as neutrally as possible but my emotions are high.
TL;DR am I being manipulative/selfish for leaving my BF for going on a trip when I asked for emotional support?
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2023.05.28 06:35 ThrowRWayAH AITA for wanting to break up over my BF going on a trip?

I (24F) and my boyfriend Alex (25M) have been together about 2 years, we live together right now in essentially a studio with my 4yo (prior relationship) and our 3 dogs currently. I recently found out I was expecting which has been a roller coaster. (This is important background info)
On Wednesday Alex told me his father was going to the coast for holiday, he stated he was not going as we had too much going on and he just went out town last weekend to visit his brothers and mom. I expressed to him I wouldn’t be comfortable alone and would prefer he stayed too.
The next day, he tells me he is going to go, and we can go on another trip next weekend. We argue because I lost my mom the day before Mothers Day and have been too busy to take a moment to grieve, and also because of finances and not being able to afford a trip while we are saving to buy a house. We end up falling asleep early.
The next day he wakes me up at 7am and is packing to leave, I tell him if he goes that is a deal breaker and I’ll be moving out. Alex tells me I am using my mom to guilt trip him into staying, the argument gets worse and I just keep reiterating I need more support right now, he works M-F and basically just comes home to shower and sleep, he didn’t even wish me a happy Mother’s Day or spend time with me. Next weekend he’s gone, this weekend he’s gone too and I’m expected to take care of 3 large dogs and a toddler while coping with the loss of my mother. His defense was his fathers getting up in age (he’s not that old) and basically my mom made him realize he might not have much time left. He keeps insisting I am the AH for trying to make him stay, and I’m being selfish for not wanting him to spend time for his dad. Im starting to second guess myself here and am trying to explain this as neutrally as possible but my emotions are high.
TL;DR AITA for leaving my BF for going on a trip when I asked for emotional support?
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2023.05.28 06:34 ThrowRWayAH AITA for wanting breakup over my partner going on a trip?

I (24F) and my boyfriend Alex (25M) have been together about 2 years, we live together right now in essentially a studio with my 4yo (prior relationship) and our 3 dogs currently. I recently found out I was expecting which has been a roller coaster. (This is important background info)
On Wednesday Alex told me his father was going to the coast for holiday, he stated he was not going as we had too much going on and he just went out town last weekend to visit his brothers and mom. I expressed to him I wouldn’t be comfortable alone and would prefer he stayed too.
The next day, he tells me he is going to go, and we can go on another trip next weekend. We argue because I lost my mom the day before Mothers Day and have been too busy to take a moment to grieve, and also because of finances and not being able to afford a trip while we are saving to buy a house. We end up falling asleep early.
The next day he wakes me up at 7am and is packing to leave, I tell him if he goes that is a deal breaker and I’ll be moving out. Alex tells me I am using my mom to guilt trip him into staying, the argument gets worse and I just keep reiterating I need more support right now, he works M-F and basically just comes home to shower and sleep, he didn’t even wish me a happy Mother’s Day or spend time with me. Next weekend he’s gone, this weekend he’s gone too and I’m expected to take care of 3 large dogs and a toddler while coping with the loss of my mother. His defense was his fathers getting up in age (he’s not that old) and basically my mom made him realize he might not have much time left. He keeps insisting I am the AH for trying to make him stay, and I’m being selfish for not wanting him to spend time for his dad. Im starting to second guess myself here and am trying to explain this as neutrally as possible but my emotions are high.
TL;DR AITA for leaving my BF for going on a trip when I asked for emotional support?
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2023.05.28 05:10 BrownTown427 Inside The Doctor's Office - Episode X: The Impurity Of Decision Making

In the last episode, we saw Dr. Logan Wright meet quite the colorful cast of individuals. From WWE superstar Logan Paul to the beautiful bird known as Logan Flight, the Symposium of the Logang was certainly a fascinating place to be. And now, with IWF superstar “Lumberjack” Logan Lawrence motivating him to stop being so passive, FBE’s Resident Doctor looks to be on the Wright path towards becoming the most focused man he can… without the distractions of his demons…



Blitz XX: Paddy Murphy vs. Dr. Logan Wright
We’ve reached the ten minute mark of this match, and after Paddy drills the Doctor with a To Cork and Back, he starts rising to his feet. However, from the outside, we hear Sensei trying to drill something into his student:

“Paddy-san… Rememberuhhh… Target the headuhhhh…”

With that last piece of advice resonating in his own head, Paddy starts getting ready for perhaps the final sequence of the match, a Give It Some Welly ready to be hit. However, Logan also happened to hear the wisdom from Sensei, dodging the big boot to the face. He gets behind Murphy, quickly dropping him with a Relax and Eat Some (German) Soup-lex. Instead of going for another move however, Wright’s gaze shifts to the outside. He exits the ring, staring a dagger through Sensei:

“Why exactly did you tell him to target my head?”

Sensei backs up a bit, but as he does so, a crumpled up piece of paper he was holding falls to the floor. He tries to pick it back up, but Wright beats him to it, revealing it to be…the stolen medical form from his office… the information regarding his head pains. Wright looks at the paper, a calm expression on his face initially, but slowly, he loses his cool. His hands ball up into fists, his face turns a bit red…and he mouths to Sensei:

“You shouldn’t have taken that.”

Wright gets back into the ring, and though Paddy has risen to his feet by this point, Logan drops him with the Whiplash sling blade. FBE’s Resident Doctor stares at his currently downed opponent, and realizes it’s time for a medical procedure…how about a Facial Reconstruction! Wright begins stomping on Paddy’s face, knocking him unconscious, before finally putting an end to the assault with the PDF Kamigoye.

Dr. Logan Wright def. Paddy Murphy via pinfall

As the ref raises Dr. Logan Wright’s hand, the crowd begins…booing? Wright looks around, confused at the negative reaction. I didn’t cheat, I just found a way to win the match. I didn’t do anything wrong… did I? As he heads into the backstage area, he’s quickly approached by a young-looking intern, a microphone in his hand:
Reporter: “Hello, my name is Ryan St. Brown, and I’m with the-”
Logan Wright: “Hang on, your last name is St. Brown? Are you related to Amon-Ra by chance?
Reporter: “No relation.”
Logan Wright: “That’s disappointing. But go ahead, ask your question.”
Reporter: “We just saw you pick up a strong victory over one of FBE’s fan favorites in Paddy Murphy. However, at the end of the match, you clearly looked more agitated than usual, and some would say you used more force than was needed to win-”
Logan Wright: “Are you one of the people saying that?”
Reporter: “Well, I…uh…”
Logan Wright: “Look, I like Paddy and Sensei. But at the same time, they took privileged medical information from me. Sure, maybe I shouldn’t have used that PDF at the end…but should I regret using one of my standard maneuvers to win a match? No, and I don’t. Next question.”
Reporter: “Ok, fair enough. You’re doing well in the Shining Light League right now, and I have to ask: if you were to win the whole thing, who would you challenge?
Logan Wright: “I don’t like dealing with hypotheticals. I much prefer diagnosing current problems with all the information at my disposal. So I’m not answering that.”
Reporter (muttering): “Man, you’re a lot more boring in person than I thought you would be. Your answers suck.”
This comment draws the ire of Wright, who moves closer towards the reporter.
Reporter: “What? Prove me wrong. Give me a message that’s actually worthwhile, and I’ll be more than happy to rescind that comment.”
Logan Wright: “I know you’re just looking for a soundbite to try and further your career, but you’ve got my attention. Ask away.”
Reporter: “Are you the best pure rules competitor in FBE?”
Logan Wright: “You’re damn right I am. They call Inferno Baba Blitz? They ought to call me Da-Da Blitz, because all these wrestlers gunning for my title… THEY’RE CHILDREN COMPARED TO ME!”
The reporter gives a sly smirk as he walks away, having gotten what he needed. Meanwhile, Wright finds a nearby chair to sit on, putting his head down. However, his moment of silence is soon interrupted by a familiar voice:
Jared Gallagher: “Weird night for you, eh?”
Wright looks up to see his once-cameraman and friend moving towards him. However, with the doctor’s tumultuous year, their relationship became more strained, not having spoken for a while…until now.
Logan Wright: “That’s one way of putting it.”
There’s a bit of an awkward silence for a few moments, as neither man initially wants to speak. Eventually though, Gallagher gains his composure:
Jared Gallagher: “Look, I know you probably don’t wanna speak to me-”
Logan Wright: “Then maybe you should stop talking.”
Jared Gallagher: “Ok fine, but let me ask you something first: what were you doing with that last remark to the reporter? It wasn’t as cool as it likely sounded in your head.”
Logan Wright: “I was doing a play on words, what’s confusing about it?”
Jared Gallagher: “Yeah, but you do realize “Baba” translates to “father” too? So instead of being clever, you were essentially just rehashing Inferno’s nickname.”
Logan Wright: “Fuck.”
Jared Gallagher: “Forget about that though, I wanted to talk to you about something else. I heard from a little birdie that you were taking advice from Logan Lawrence.”
Logan Wright: “Logan Flight ratted on me? I knew he couldn’t be trusted.”
Jared Gallagher: “That’s not the birdie I meant…you know what, forget it. I just want you to understand that being overly aggressive isn’t the key to success. You’ve already been good up to this point, don’t lose your true self by being more of a jackass.”
Logan Wright: “Yeah, being good is fine…but I don’t wanna just be “good” anymore. I wanna be great. I want to prove myself as the pillar of something, and pure rules is the best chance I have at that. But relax, I don’t wanna just be an asshole for the sake of being one either.”
Jared Gallagher: “Ok, that’s fine. But if you want to improve… What's your next move? Gonna do some training with the rest of the Ark? Maybe ask your medical colleagues for some more dieting tips?
Logan briefly thinks about the suggestions, before he remembers something that Sensei told him…
Logan Wright: “No, I have a better idea… I’m going to Nepal.”
And with that, Dr. Wright starts heading towards the exit, a smile on his face, while Jared Gallagher is just left confused. He never even said why he was going there, what in the world is he doing…



One Week Before Unbreakable V: Kathmandu, Nepal
After a long trip, Logan Wright has finally made it into the heart of the Himalayan Mountains. He gets out of the car, paying and thanking the driver who escorted him from the airport to get to this point. He reaches into his pocket, grabbing the “business” card that led him to this location. He stares at it for a few moments, glancing up and down to make sure he’s in the right place. Yep, this is the one…
In front of Dr. Wright stands a worn-down house. It's small, with what looks to be only one story, and the white color is wearing away like the wooden beams supporting it. There’s a window near the front door, but a set of blinds are covering it up. As Logan approaches the entry-way, he smells a distinct odor of soup. Taking a breath, he knocks on the door. As he does so, a crash of glass can be heard on the other side, and there’s some momentary yelling before a tired-looking individual opens the door.
???: “May I help you?”
Logan Wright: “Hello, my name is Logan Wright. I’ve been informed that an incredibly wise teacher of medicine and healing resides here…”
???: “You’re correct, but he’s not seeing anyone today. Come back another time…”
Logan Wright: “Wait, I really need this. And I think I know one of his friends, they pointed this place out to me.”
???: “What’s the name of this friend?”
Logan Wright: “He’s known as Sensei-”
“LETT HYMN INN!”
This yelling from inside the house startles Wright, and the man at the doorway sighs, motioning for Logan to come in. As the doctor does so, he glances around the house, immediately noticing the kitchen area. Sitting at a table there is an older gentleman, with a pair of glasses on and a cane at his side, Logan quickly realizing he’s blind. The man from the doorway points for Logan to sit down with him, and Wright obliges, positioning himself in the chair next to the old individual.
Logan Wright: “Hello sir, it’s a pleasure to meet-”
???: “HALLO! IHT IST VAIRY GNEISS TWO MEAT YU! MI NEIGHME IST BLOGAN BITE!”
Wright briefly cringes at the yelling of the individual, looking back with a confused look on his face to the figure near the door. He notices a nametag on the figure he hadn’t seen before, reading “Bibek”.
Bibek: “Yeah, don’t worry about that. He’s blind and almost deaf, he needs to speak loudly to make himself sure he’s actually talking. Oh, and he said, “Hello, it is very nice to meet you. My name is Blogan Bite.”
Logan Wright: “Wait, why are you translating for him? He’s speaking directly to me, I know what he’s saying.”
Bibek: “Oh, just so the readers of this episode actually have a clue as to what’s going on.”
Logan Wright: “Wait what readers… oh, we’re doing another fourth wall break, gotcha.”
Blogan Bite: “Y HOV U CUHMM HEAR?”
Bibek: (“Why have you come here?”)
Logan Wright: “I’m looking for some advice. For a while now, I’ve felt an inner conflict in my emotional state and my moral compass. I want to be more aggressive, to try and be the best…but I don’t want to abandon the roots of my existence that helped shape me into who I am. Do you have any advice?”
Blogan Bite: “HYMMMMMM…. A TUFF PRAHBLIM INN DEED!”
Bibek: (“Hmmm… A tough problem indeed.”)
Suddenly, Blogan reaches towards his side, reaching into a bag. He shakes it around for a bit, before pulling out something from inside. He triumphantly slams it onto the table, before pushing it towards Dr. Wright. Logan looks at it for a few moments, an incredulous look on his face.
Logan Wright: “Why exactly are you… what is… what do you expect me to do with a copy of Fire and Ice by Robert Frost?
Blogan Bite: “HEE IST UHHH GRATE POE EHT! TAKEUHHH INN SPUR AYE SHUN FROMM HYMM!”
Bibek: (“He is a great poet. Take inspiration from him.”)
Logan Wright: “So… let me get this straight: your solution to my problem is…writing fucking poetry?
Blogan Bite: “WASH YUR LANGWAGEE JUNG MANN! POEHHH TREE IST UHHH BEUTUHFULL THYNG!”
Bibek: (“Watch your language young man. Poetry is a beautiful thing.”)
Logan Wright: “Yeah but…surely there’s something that’s more suitable for my situation?”
Blogan Bite: “EYE ARM UHHH FRAYED KNOT! TEH BAHG HAHS SPOKANE!”
Bibek: (“I am afraid not. The bag has spoken.”)
Logan Wright: “Wait, do you just reach in the bag and randomly pull out an object for everyone that comes in?”
Blogan Bite: “OFF COORS! WATT ELSUHHH WOOD EYE DOO?”
Bibek: (“Of course. What else would I do?”)
Logan Wright: “Ok, I think we’re done here. Thank you for this… attempt at a recommendation. You’re truly one of the people I’ve ever met.”
As Logan gets up, Blogan extends a hand. Reluctantly, Wright shakes it, before heading to the doorway, acknowledging Bibek, and leaving the worn-down house. As he heads towards the street, he’s just left to ponder what transpired. That was dumb… traveling thousands of miles instead of just doing training was rather pointless. But as he gets in the car, ready to go back to the airport, another set of thoughts come over him. You know what…maybe I can make the best out of this situation…maybe writing poetry actually can do me some good…



Day Before Unbreakable V: Dr. Wright’s Office
With just 24 hours until Unbreakable, Jared Gallagher and Charles Crandall figure Wright is busy with training, or if nothing else, his medical work. However, they’re surprised to receive an invite to his office, and though Gallagher tries to ask him what it’s about, he gets no answer. It frustrates him, but he figures it must be important, so after grabbing a quick bite with Charles, they head over to the office. By this point in time, Crandall is fairly quiet, his eyes becoming increasingly purple for longer periods of time and Wrogan slowly and quietly influencing his personality, but the time to reveal that isn’t here…yet.
When they reach the hall outside the office, they’re surprised to see Logan standing in the doorway, a smile on his face. He invites them in, even having an assortment of pastries and desserts on the table for his friends to snack on. While Jared is quick to grab a danish, he’s also quick to raise eyebrows at this behavior.
Jared Gallagher: “Logan, what is all this for? This feels…too nice…
Logan Wright: “What, a man can’t just happen to invite his friends over for some delicious treats?”
Jared Gallagher: “You’re not fooling anyone man, just tell us why we’re here.”
Logan Wright: “Ok fine, you got me. The reason you’re here today… I wanted you to be the first screenings of my first-ever poem!”
Though Crandall is wearing sunglasses, he and Gallagher are quick to shoot each other a glance of confusion.
Jared Gallagher: “What?”
Logan Wright: “That’s right, when I went to Nepal, the man I met recommended I write poetry to ease my tensions and help me become a better person. I thought he was insane, but as I started to write, I realized…he may be right!
Jared Gallagher: “That’s…but…I’m so confused. You didn’t even get any real training or medicinal techniques? You just got…told to write? What even is your topic?”
Logan Wright: “I’m glad you asked, old chum! I’ve entitled this poem…

An Ode To Jay…

In the garden lived a bird
Who truly loved to sing
It was a beautiful mockingjay
And through the air, its voice did ring

The bird was beloved
And believed to be a Hero
But little did the world know
Of its painful little ego

This bird fought and fought
It did everything to grow
But when abandoned by friends
It was a true low blow

Once upon a time, the group was
United, and forever in-sync
But when the Jay hit the bottle
Oh, did their PROSPECTS ever so sink

And the bird has recovered
It has regained its feathers
But little does the jay know
Of the impending, harsh weathers

For the jay may spread its wings
And fly in the dark
But it doesn’t know
Of its impending, dangerous arc

This bird will fly, and
It truly wants to win
But the true challenge is here
For the Doctor is in!

As Wright finishes his last line, his theatrical reading of the lines now finished, he finally turns towards his faithful audience. He’s met with a blank look from Charles Crandall, the sunglasses still firmly covering his eyes. And Jared… his mouth is agape, trying to process what he just heard.
Logan Wright: “So… what did you think?”
Jared Gallagher: “I… what… how… why… I don’t know what to say.”
Logan Wright: “You can show your appreciation by clapping, I worked really hard on that.”
Jared Gallagher: “I could… but let me get this straight… This is how you’re handling your upcoming rematch with Jay? Making a poem that only we’ve listened to, and not trying to find a way to, I don’t know, not finish the match in a time-limit draw?”
Logan Wright: “Forget about that, tell me if I should improve the language I used and how the poem flowed together. I could probably stand to write a poem for the tag team title match as well.”
Jared Gallagher: “Logan, Logan, Logan… Ok, if you want to live in this strange world of yours, go ahead. The poem was fine, but you weren’t exactly subtle with it, especially at the end. Like I get you want to beat Jay, and I know you were mad with what he said about you in the past…but really, finishing the entire thing about the Doctor being in? That doesn’t even make sense with the vibe you established.”
Logan Wright: “Fair critique, I’ll keep that in mind when I continue writing these.”
Jared Gallagher: “Come on man, it’s cool that you have a hobby, but I know just how much you cared about wrestling. Please, just step away from the paper and train while you still have a little bit of time left before tomorrow. I know we’re not as close as we once were…but if nothing else, do it for the rest of the Ark. Do it out of spite against Wrogan. Do it to prove that you’re not completely crazy, and that you deserve to be where you are in life.”
It’s with this line that something seems to click in Logan’s head. He looks towards Jared, nodding his head, and he moves towards his desk. He stares at all the notes and rough drafts he had been working on for his writings, a frown coming over his face.
Logan Wright: “I wish I was normal… I wish I didn’t go through these personality changes every other day. You’re right Jared…You’ve always been right. Wrestling needs to come first, and I have everything I need to stay energized. I don’t want to be passive, I don’t want to be aggressive…I just want to live. And tomorrow…things are going to get fun.
Gallagher smiles at Wright being reinvigorated, and the pair share a quick hug. Upon Jared and Charles leaving, Dr. Wright takes a quick look in his mirror, and smiles at the expression of confidence now piercing through his eyes. He grabs his coat, turns off the light, and so begins a long and tedious night at the gym…



Night of Death Before Impurity:

Pre-Match Process

The Finals are here… and Logan Wright is in them. After weeks leading-into months of this Shining Light League Tournament running center-stage on Blitz, the Doctor has gotten to where he wanted to be…where he needed to be. As he sits in the locker room, getting himself mentally prepared for the tall task that comes with facing DTJ’s Hunter Maguire, he sees in his peripheral vision someone entering the room. He glances up, smiling to see Jared coming to visit.
Jared Gallagher: “Hey champ, how we feeling about tonight?”
Logan Wright: “Whatever happens tonight…well, what I know will happen tonight… is PURE-ly destiny.”
Jared Gallagher: “Not your best joke, but glad to see you’ve been in positive spirits recently.”
Logan Wright: “Yep, tonight has to be the moment where everything pays off…it just has to…”
Jared Gallagher: “It will… I believe in you. And if you don’t mind me asking…who would you want to face at P.U.R.E. if things go your way?
Logan Wright: “You know I can’t answer that right now, I have to get the job done first.”
Jared Gallagher: “Fair enough, fair enough. I should be heading off…go get em’, champ.
With that, Gallagher leaves the room, and Wright rises to his feet. He looks at his arms, then his legs, then finds the mirror. He stares into his soul…Come on out Doctor…It’s operation time…

Post-Match Press Conference

Dr. Logan Wright did it.
As he’s now backstage, being greeted with a bottle of champagne that was ordered for him, Logan is still trying to ponder what just took place out there. From the match itself… to the seconds after the match realizing he won… to the return of the legend Petite Jupiter, handing him the trophy…
It’s all absolutely surreal, and Logan is at a loss for words. However, as he gets word that reporters are waiting to get a word from him, he quickly gathers his composure. He takes a big swig from the champagne bottle, before heading into the room, waving to the assortment of familiar and different faces. He moves towards the stage, taking a seat and getting the mic setup, ready to hear questions.
Reporter #1: “That was a hell of a match you had, Dr. Wright. What’s going through your head right now?”
Logan Wright: “Honestly, half of it is just my brain screaming and the other half is random gibberish. I can’t fully process either, but when I feel this way… I’m fucking pumped. But I do wanna quickly say… I respect you Hunter, I really do. You’ve been a tough opponent twice now… but that’s all the positives I can really say right now. Fuck DTJ.”
Reporter #2: “We just witnessed the return of Petite Jupiter, and the fans certainly loved it. But what did you think about it? Did you feel as though he was stealing your thunder by returning immediately after your big moment?”
Logan Wright: “Look, I know you’re looking for a soundbite, and I caved in several weeks ago to that one reporter. I’m not gonna do that here though. I faced Petite Jupiter in 2021, and I know just how good he is. He deserved to get that electric crowd reaction, and I couldn’t have asked for a better person to hand me the beautiful Shining Light League trophy.”
Reporter #3: “But now Dr. Wright, I think we all have a question on our minds. In addition to that trophy, you have the chance to pick your challenger for P.U.R.E, and that’s a lot of power. So if you can tell us…who are you gonna be facing?
Logan smiles at the question, fully expecting it to have been asked. He glances around the room, noticing Kaze Tanaka, Code Blue, Cactus Mike, and Jared Gallagher all standing at the back. He nods at them, before getting the mic, ready to make the announcement:

Logan Wright:
“In my time in FBE, there have been times where I’ve felt…insecure. Insecure about my talent, insecure about if people actually liked me or not, and insecure about my failures especially. But 2023… let’s just say it’s been a great Spring of Stethoscopes so far. You all know I’ve held the Pure Championship for about four months now, and I’ve faced my fair share of great individuals. But this second title run… it’s missing something. My past, in particular my 2021, was riddled with failures against veterans of this company. Losses to Inferno, to Nate Matthews, to Petite Jupiter… wins were hard to come by. I turned things around in 2022, but even then, my 1st Pure Title reign came to an end at the hands of FBE’s Resident Bastard. It feels like it’s just inevitable, and a running gag…
…But nowadays, I look at myself differently. Other people look at me differently. I’ve grown into what I wanted to be, what I hoped I would be… hell, I’ve even been dubbed as being somewhat of a “Final Boss.” I don’t want to get too egotistical, but not having lost since January… man, the ship I’m on, that being the Ark of course, is on a perfect path. But sometimes, it’s better to go for a different path, a path that stands out…to maybe make history…
So with that, this decision has drifted in my mind, and I’ve weighed all my options carefully. I’ve considered juniors and heavyweights. I’ve considered people from my past or completely fresh opponents. I’ve considered people who would die to win the Pure Championship, or even those who have disrespected it, to show them what it’s all about. But after a while, something finally clicked in my head. I’ve tried to forget that previously mentioned “can never beat a veteran legend” stigma, but until I get a decisive win, it’ll always float right alongside the ocean that contains my thoughts and dreams. So I will be challenging a long-time competitor of FBE, a man who has wrestled here for many years…
But the question of who was certainly a fascinating one…for about a minute. For once this name came to me, it never escaped. This man has held his share of championship gold, This man knows a thing or two about being dubbed a “Final Boss.” And this man has quite the past experience against the Ark… except with me. And to this man, I officially extend the challenge…if he's willing to accept it...

The stage is set…the main event of P.U.R.E…for the FBE Pure Championship…The match you reporters and all the worldwide fans of FBE will get to witness is…


Doctor Logan Wright vs. Apeirogone
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2023.05.28 05:09 VastJackfruit405 Odd comment in therapy

I had a strange comment from my therapist the other day that I wanted to get input on. I’d recently gone on vacation and part of it was work related. In the work related part there was a lot of drinking going on (I’m sober but previously struggled with abusing alcohol) and there were some very awkward moments of people pushing really hard on getting me to drink. At one point at a dinner someone ordered a round of a really expensive after dinner drinks to do a toast and there was quite a bit of pressure to drink it. I didn’t. The rest of the trip was no problem and I was proud of myself for getting through it.
After I described what happened on the trip the comment from my therapist was that I wasn’t out of it yet and that I should be ready for drinking thoughts and temptation for the next six weeks or so. This person isn’t an addiction counselor, it is more general therapy. I thought it was an odd comment because I’m not feeling triggered, and I didn’t want the drink on vacation. It smelled disgusting to me. I noticed the comment but I let it go. And then it came up again at the end of the session, as a parting warning. It was like someone saying “just so you know, you are going to think of elephants a lot for the next six weeks. So don’t do it, don’t think about elephants. It’s coming, get ready, but don’t think about them.”
Does anyone else find this concerning? It could absolutely have been a warning from experience, something in me feels like they are sober and just haven’t specifically said so. But I didn’t like being excited from a win and expressing how thankful I am for my sobriety and having it return twice to that comment. I was mostly sober last year with a few slips, right now I’m seven months of complete sobriety that includes two vacations and a whole lot of other scenarios that would have led me to drink in the past. I’m not interested anymore, I know too much. I have been spending so much time on my sobriety. Group therapy, 1:1 coaching, discussion groups, sober friends, DBT, and my regular therapy. Endless reading and podcasts. I definitely need to share with this person that this wasn’t helpful (especially not in the first holiday weekend of the summer) but I wanted to see how others would hear it. Maybe there’s an angle I’m missing but it felt reckless to me. It’s not like I won’t be seeing her for six weeks, we have sessions bi-weekly and she’s aware of how much work I’m doing and how much support I have.
Would love any input! I’m definitely not going to drink, I think I just resent it making it more of a focus (or fear) than it has been. It didn’t sit well with me.
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2023.05.28 03:41 palocci The Brazilian "Secular Stagnation" and what Lula can do about it

The Brazilian
Introduction
Here's another effortpost on Brazil! This time I'll be talking about why the Brazilian economy stagnated, and what we can expect from Lula in terms of economic policy (I've talked about this in the past but now I'll go into more detail).
Between 1920 and 1980, Brazil was a clear economic success story. For 60 years, our GDP grew at an average of 4% a year. This 'golden age' ended in a hyperinflation crisis, which made the 1980s become known as a 'lost decade', and since its resolution in 1994 with the Plano Real, our economy has experienced minimal growth: from 1980 to 2020, the average GDP growth rate was only 0.7%.
Evolution of the Brazilian per capita product, at 2010 prices, from 1900 to 2021. The scale of the graph is logarithmic in base 2.
In this post, I'll try to explain the reasons for Brazil's low growth in the last four decades and what Lula's plans are to address them.
The debate
Before delving into the actual causes of the "semi-stagnation", I would like to explain the economic debate in Brazil. This debate revolves around two major groups of economists: the "developmentalists" and the "liberals." The term "developmentalism" may be unfamiliar to many people here, but it is very present in Latin America. A decent explanation for it could be "dirigisme with Latam characteristics."
In short, liberalism in this context is associated with economic orthodoxy and a pro-market orientation in economic policy, while developmentalism leans towards economic heterodoxy and advocates for direct state interference in the economy. This debate is, in theory, separate from the traditional right versus left political divide, as we have had governments from both ends of the political spectrum adopting policies aligned with either school of thought. For instance, Lula I (2003-2007) represented a left-wing liberal government, while Geisel (1974-1979) presided over a right-wing developmentalist government. However, in practice, liberalism is associated with the right-wing while developmentalism is associated with the left-wing.
One area of major divergence between those two groups is full employment. Liberals argue that the Brazilian economy generally operates at full employment, which means that there are well-defined supply-side limits and restrictions in the economy, whereas developmentalists believe it tends to operate below that level. This implies that the economy's natural state is one of perpetual aggregate demand deficiency, and thus the government could just increase spending to mobilize idle production factors and stimulate economic growth.
Furthermore, liberals typically view direct state intervention in the economy with distrust, opposing increased public investments in infrastructure and most forms of industrial policy. Their preference generally leans towards reducing government spending and relying on a 'crowding in' effect, together with supply-side reforms. Conversely, developmentalists perceive state intervention as a necessity to stimulate the economy, favoring a robust industrial policy and increased public investments.
Those are significant oversimplifications, and many economists do not align themselves with either group. In any case, I would say this categorization reasonably represents the current debate.
It's a tradition in Brazil to divide ministries between liberals and developmentalists to ensure a balance between the two. The current Finance Minister, Fernando Haddad, believes in a middle ground approach, with some of his secretaries (e.g., Guilherme Mello) leaning more towards developmentalism, while others (e.g., Bernard Appy) lean more towards liberalism. Planning Minister Simone Tebet and Industry and Commerce Minister Geraldo Alckmin are firmly in the liberal camp. However, due to the nature of his ministry, Geraldo Alckmin will probably concede more to developmentalist policies (as he's already doing). Aloizio Mercadante, the President of the National Bank for Economic and Social Development (BNDES), is considered the leader of the developmentalist branch of the government, along with Workers' Party President Gleisi Hoffmann (some people jokingly refer to her as the main opposition to Fernando Haddad and the 'Twitter Shadow Finance Minister' due to some of her tweets).
Without further ado, let's get to the causes of Brazil's stagnation.
Guido Mantega (Finance Minister between 2006 and 2014) and Antônio Palocci (Finance Minister between 2003 and 2006). Mantega is associated to developmentalism and Palocci to liberalism.
Education
First of all, the significant growth of the 20th century left a terrible educational legacy. Brazil only began to have a somewhat consistent educational policy in the 1990s and 2000s, when basic education was universalized. To put it into perspective, in 1990, the average number of years of schooling in Brazil was 3.8 years. Even Sub-Saharan African countries like Congo, Zimbabwe, and Zambia had higher average schooling levels than ours. Approximately a quarter of the population were illiterate.
The key change came with the 1988 Constitution, which decided that Brazil would try to become an European-style social democracy. Since then, considerable progress has been made, but clearly not enough. The main educational bottleneck lies in Elementary School II, which typically spans the ages of 12 to 15. It is during this stage in Brazil that the discrepancy between age and the appropriate grade level drastically increases, leading to higher rates of grade repetition and students falling behind in their education.
This problem is probably related to the transition from a single teacher trained in pedagogy in Elementary I to several specialists teaching only one subject. This transition also occurs at the onset of adolescence, which is naturally a turbulent phase already, with the introduction of drugs, alcohol and various forms of prejudice being normal. The result ends up being a distancing of the student from school.
Two Brazilian states, which have been governed by center-left parties for many years, serve as examples in Brazilian educational policy: Pernambuco and Ceará.
A highlight in Ceará is the Programa de Afabetização na Idade Certa (Program of Alphabetization in the Right Age), which aims to ensure that all students in the state's public school systems achieve literacy by the age of 7. The plan was based on the following pillars: (1) the elaboration of a specialized literacy curriculum that was adopted in all the municipalities, with structured materials for teachers and students containing a daily routine of classroom activities and homework assignments; (2) pedagogical practices to encourage reading in the classroom; (3) financial incentives for the municipalities that achieve better results in education; and (4) evaluation and monitoring of the program, with a census and diagnostic test that is applied at the beginning of every semester.
Pernambuco has implemented a Full-Time High School system that stands out. The system is based on the following pillars: (1) the introduction of a subject called "life project," which encourages students to create plans with goals and objectives for their lives; (2) guided study, providing a space for autonomy in learning and fostering self-directed learning skills; (3) hands-on, practical classes that combine theory and practice; (4) youth clubs, where collective interests of young people are pursued; (5) tutoring, where teachers (tutors) interact with students to support their development; and (6) full-time education, of course.
Both plans have been tremendous successes and could be implemented nationwide. The Member of Parliament Tabata Amaral has proposed the program "basic education like Ceará's, high school like Pernambuco's." We might see that put in practice. Izolda Cela, the mind behind Ceará's basic education plan, is the Executive-Secretary of the Ministry of Education, and the current Minister of Education is Camilo Santana, the governor of Ceará between 2014 and 2022.
Izolda Cela (Executive-Secretary of the Ministry of Education) and Camilo Santana (Minister of Education).
Public Investments
Furthermore, there is a general consensus that the significant decrease in public investment since 1980 explains part of the problem. During the Golden Age of Brazilian growth, public investment mounted to about 6% of GDP, whereas it currently stands at approximately 4% since the lost decade. Liberal economists tend to attribute this to the expansion of the welfare state, that came with a substantial increase in the tax burden (from 25% of GDP in the 1970s to 35% in 2000). On the other hand, developmentalist economists point to the decline in public savings due to the privatization of state-owned enterprises in the 1990s.
In his second government, Lula created the Programa de Aceleração do Crescimento (PAC) (Growth Acceleration Program), whose objective was precisely to expand public investments. Unfortunately, the plan ended up with highly controversial results, primarily due to the low administrative capacity of the Brazilian State and corruption (some like to call the plan the Corruption Acceleration Program!).
But now the Workers' Party has gained new experience. Many of its state governments became famous for extensive investment programs in partnership with the private sector, delivering positive results. Chief of Staff Rui Costa, in particular, had a successful experience with public-private investments during his tenure as the governor of Bahia. He is now expected to lead the "New PAC", which will probably be announced at some point between today and July. (The project still has no name and is provisionally being called "New PAC").
Here's what Rui Costa has said about the project: "We will have, in an unprecedented way, investments with Public Private Partnerships (PPIs) at the federal level. Many states, including Bahia, have made PPI projects. [...] We are negotiating with the Ministry of Finance the conditions for guarantees so that we can leverage these projects."
Lula wants to meet with the 27 state governors to determine which state projects the Union should prioritize for its investments. In recent weeks, Costa has held individual meetings with the state governments to define which projects will be included in the new PAC. In all, eight governors have already been heard.
In a speech on the May 1st holiday, Lula said the following about the project: "We are inviting foreign businessmen to invest in Brazil and we are showing them the great projects that we are going to present in the third PAC. It will be the largest infrastructure project in this country."
Former Governor of Bahia (2014 - 2022) and current Chief of Staff Rui Costa.
Deindustrialization
Another problem is the early deindustrialization that is taking place in Brazil: we are losing our industry before becoming rich. In the beginning of the lost decade, the industry accounted for one-quarter of the Brazilian GDP, whereas today it represents around one-tenth. The reason for this process is complex, and once again, economists disagree. Liberals point to the new form of production organization that emerged with globalization, where the manufacturing of goods was fragmented into different stages, each executed in different countries. According to this line of thinking, Brazil failed to adapt to the new industrial configuration and remained stuck in an unrealistic autarkic dream. On the other hand, developmentalist economists usually argue that after the end of hyperinflation, Brazil fell into a trap of having an overvalued currency and high interest rates, demolishing the industry's competitiveness. (I am more inclined towards the first thesis, although it is a fact that the Brazilian exchange rate was detrimental to the industry after the Real Plan).
Now I want to talk a little bit about the Brazilian industrial bourgeoisie and its problems. In the 1960s, the then sociologist and future president Fernando Henrique Cardoso published his thesis on the Brazilian industrial entrepreneurs. Based on his research, he concluded that Brazilian industrialists did not have any national project, and (1) "only cared about their personal interests when speaking on behalf of the class" and (2) "[their] political action consists of personal participation in the patrimonialist game." Brazil has a serious problem related to what we call 'patrimonialism,' which refers to the capture of resources from the Brazilian state to benefit private interests.
Unfortunately, industrial policy in Brazil often results in tax exemptions, subsidies, tariff protections, etc., for an inefficient, patrimonialist, and somewhat broken industry that was developed in the 20th century. The Workers' Party itself fell into this outdated corporatism while in power, especially during the first Rousseff administration (2011-2015). It is a shame that advocating for greater state involvement in the economy ends up becoming a defense of those interest groups.
In this sense, I find myself opposed to both liberals and developmentalists. While the latter end up promoting an agenda that only benefits private interests, albeit with good intentions, the former dismiss any state planning, believing in an 'economic abiogenesis.' Since 2016, we have been reducing the role of the state and waiting for a crowding in effect, but with no success. We need strong a industrial policy, but it has to be transparent and not perpetuate the old game of patrimonialism.
In the words of the brilliant economist Laura Carvalho: "We want a State that identifies ways to stimulate technological innovation and product development in partnership with the private sector. But this policy cannot become hostage to the existing private sector. We have remnants of our industry of the 20th century, for example the automobile industry, and when we do industrial policy, we end up just giving incentives to them. This is a state that does not choose winners, but rather is chosen by losers. Those who are struggling in the industry try to eat the resources of the state to survive."
Unfortunately, the signals from the new Lula government are quite negative. Industry and Commerce Minister Geraldo Alckmin recently announced a plan of incentives for the automobile industry, which is essentially the same program that has failed several times in the past. There are positive things coming from his ministry, but few of them have much to do directly with a well-made industrial policy. It's a shame.
His plans beyond industrial policy appear positive, as shown in the following excerpt, at least: "Brazil had an early deindustrialization. Europe also deindustrialized, but ours was precarious and severe. More than reindustrializing, we need a neo-reindustrialization. A central issue is the competitiveness agenda. There is a principle in medicine that says: suppress the cause and the effect ceases. We have to act on the causes of low growth. Our tax model generates an absurd cost for companies. It is not fair. We have an absurd judicialization that leads to legal insecurity and hinders exports. The whole world has a VAT (value added tax. I defend it. I think Haddad is doing well and I am a great enthusiast of the tax reform."
Probably more than any other politician of expression today, Haddad positions himself as a republican and talks about reducing the patrimonialist distortions of the Brazilian public budget. He talks about "closing the drains of what is called Brazilian patrimonialism" and "ending a series of abuses that have been committed against the fiscal base" of the country. He says that many sectors have been "overly" benefited "with rules established over the decades and that have not been reviewed by any outcome control. Many have expired from the point of view of efficiency, and need to be revoked."
Former Governor of São Paulo (2001 - 2006; 2010 - 2017) and current Vice-President of Brazil and Minister of Industry and Commerce Geraldo Alckmin.
Business Environment
Brazilian productivity has been stagnant for decades. What is causing this? The main suspect is the Brazilian tax system. There is an enormous complexity in the various indirect taxes (ISS, ICMS, PIS/Cofins, and IPI), which forces every company to have an excessively large department dedicated to tax payment. Additionally, numerous divergences of interpretation arise between the Federal Revenue, state authorities, and businesses. On every corner of our cities, there is a specialized tax law office to assist companies in dealing with the extremely high level of litigation in our taxation system. To make matters worse, our indirect taxes discourage investment in locations with higher social returns, as the tax complexity and special tax regimes artificially alter the profitability of investments and production. A general simplification of these taxes, with the adoption of a Value Added Tax, could have an impact on the economy's efficiency equivalent to the Plano Real, which ended hyperinflation.
Even beyond the tax issue, the Brazilian business environment is terrible. According to the World Bank's Doing Business 2020 report, which measures the ease of doing business in 190 countries, Brazil ranks 124th. This problem is related to excessive bureaucracy, unexpected judicial decisions, loopholes in regulatory frameworks, and disrespect for contracts.
The Tax Reform is going to be the government's main priority after the approval of the New Fiscal Anchor. Planning Minister Simone Tebet summed up the reform as follows: "The Tax reform is the only silver bullet that we have to save Brazil."
And here's what Finance Minister Fernando Haddad has said about it: "There is no way to grow Brazil's productivity with this tax system [...] We are developing a tax reform that is even more modern, because it introduces in the national tax system a Value Added Tax that solves a good part of the flaws of the current system that, in my opinion, is the great villain for the low growth rates of our productivity." The idea is to approve the Tax Reform still this year (Haddad talks about doing it in the first semester!).
Special Secretary for Tax Reform Bernard Appy.
Economic Isolation
Brazil has a very closed economy. Among the 160 countries analyzed by the World Bank, the Brazilian economy is only less open than that of Sudan. The average protection applied by Brazil to capital goods is 14 times higher than in Chile and 25 times higher than in Mexico. This is probably the most expressive cause of the low productivity and deindustrialization in Brazil, together with the tax system. Here, I quote the brilliant economist Edmar Bacha: "[The closure of the Brazilian economy during the Geisel government (1974 - 1979)] caused a tremendous drop in the economy's productivity and an increase in the cost of capital goods. And this, I believe, is what lies at the root of our stagnation after the so-called economic miracle (1968-1974). Our industry became unable to compete internationally. And we were forced, because the industry has this extraordinary lobbying capacity, to prevent the redesign of the Brazilian industry to participate in global value chains."
Bacha's argument makes sense: the collapse of GDP growth coincides with the collapse of capital accumulation (the growth rate of the capital stock) after Geisel's government. Why did capital accumulation collapse? Bacha explains that using a decomposition of the investment = savings relationship: K' = s(1/p)v - δ, where K' = capital accumulation, s = savings rate, p = relative price of investment, v = output-capital ratio, and δ = depreciation rate.
Between 1950-1980, the "golden age" of Brazil, K' grew at nearly 9% per year. Between 1981-2014, this number was 3%. Why? Looking at the historical series, the difference is not in savings or depreciation. What happened was that the output-capital ratio fell by about one-third, and the relative price of investment increased by one-third. In other words, the capital requirement per unit of output increased significantly, and at the same time, the price of investment goods rose significantly. According to Bacha, this process occurred between 1973 and 1983, a period in which the Military Government pursued an autarkic economic policy.
The ideal scenario for Brazil would be to open its economy and have an export-oriented industry. The industry we have developed is heavily reliant on our domestic market, without external competition. In the words of economist Nelson Barbosa: "Brazil cannot produce ships, but it can produce airplanes. Brazil does not have car manufacturers, but it has bus manufacturers. Brazil cannot have a domestic production of microelectronics, but it has a good domestic production of electric motors. So we need to study what worked in these sectors to see if it can be replicated in other sectors. All these successful sectors, Embraer, Weg, Marco Polo, are sectors that are competitive in Brazil and in the world. Here is the first clue: correct industrial policies create domestic production that competes domestically and internationally. They are integrated products that import and export extensively. Value chains."
However, an open trade policy without a plan may not be positive either. In Nelson's words: "Development always means increased productivity. Opening the economy can stimulate productivity, but it can also lead to a negative specialization. You can open your economy and become a country that only exports commodities, with an inflated services sector that only sells domestically, with a significant portion of your population relying on informal jobs. Which is what happens in Brazil. So I think trade openness is inevitable, more developed countries are more open, but thinking that just opening up will automatically lead to development is naïve and something we shouldn't do in the 21st century. I believe that strategic trade integration is crucial and necessary for development. Unilateral openness, without any plan, will only reinforce the specialization we already have today."
In any case, it is certain that the current excessive protectionism cannot be maintained. Opening up would allow broader access for companies to (1) cheaper and higher-quality inputs and (2) foreign-produced capital goods and technology, (3) create significant competition effects to invigorate the economy, and (4) create a 'selection effect' that would eliminate losers and favor winners.
But this is the agenda that I am least hopeful about. Trade openness is a topic that faces strong opposition from the Brazilian left and would likely only occur under a moderate center-right government. I hope, at least, that some trade agreements can be reached to open up the economy. The European Union-Mercosur trade agreement would have a significant impact and would be very important but I'm not very hopeful that it'll be approved.
Haddad is still optimistic, though! He said that a more emphatic diplomatic effort will be made starting in the second semester, in a movement that will take advantage of Brazil's leadership in Mercosur and Spain's leadership in the European bloc.
Simone Tebet (Planning Minister) and Fernando Haddad (Finance Minister).
Interest Rates
Interest rates in Brazil are much, much higher than the global average. Our credit is scarce and dysfunctional. Lula likes to repeat that Brazil is a capitalist country without capitalism because there is no credit.
Brazil has the second-highest bank spread in the world, second only to Madagascar. This means that banks in Brazil charge very high interest rates for lending money. To give you an idea, Brazil's bank spread is higher than the average observed in countries at war. There are several reasons for this, but some stand out: (1) savings in Brazil have historically been very low (around 20% of GDP), (2) the government consumes a significant portion of savings to finance itself, and (3) the Brazilian banking sector is extremely concentrated, with a few banks dominating the entire sector.
The other issue in this discussion is the current policy interest rate set by the Central Bank. Brazil currently has the highest real interest rate in the world, at around 9%. The debate about whether this interest level is correct or not is quite active in Brazil, with its proponents arguing that the current Brazilian inflation is demand-driven and pointing to inflation in the services sector and core inflation, while its critics argue that inflation is not demand-driven, pointing to the fact that Brazil has had a negative output gap since 2015 and that supply shocks can explain the inflation in services.
This debate is complex, and it is hard to determine definitively which side is right. Nevertheless, the Central Bank is strongly adhering to the first thesis.
The current Chairman of the Central Bank, Roberto Campos Neto (RCN), is the grandson of an economist of the Military Dictatorship and was appointed by Bolsonaro. He will remain in his position until 2024 due to the new autonomy granted to the Central Bank in 2021. In this scenario, Lula engaged in a public war against RCN, urging him to lower interest rates. The situation became tense, but Lula never showed any willingness to take effective action to remove him, remaining only in rhetoric. Throughout the conflict, Haddad positioned himself as a moderate, playing a certain "good cop, bad cop" game with Lula and gaining trust in the financial market. Apparently, Lula intends to nominate former executive-secretary of the Finance Ministry Gabriel Galípolo to replace RCN in 2024. He was recently appointed as director of monetary policy at the Central Bank, and is widely identified as a heterodox economist.
Haddad's current plan is to stabilize Brazil's deficit to allow for a monetary loosening. Here's what he said: "We are not at a point where fiscal expansion is going to help the economy. If there is room for any stimulus, it will be monetary. If we know how to make the transition, there is room for a lower interest rate, you just have to give security to the monetary authority." He does not seem to be concerned about banking concentration, though.
Chairman of the Central Bank Roberto Campos Neto.
TL;DR
The Brazilian economy has seen very little growth since the the lost decade in the 1980s. One of the primary factors contributing to this stagnation is the economy's low productivity. There are several reasons behind this low productivity, including:
  1. Inadequate infrastructure and insufficient investments in its development.
  2. A significant delay in comparison to other countries in terms of investing in education.
  3. Unreasonable economic protectionism.
  4. Private groups exerting undue influence and capturing the Brazilian state (patrimonialism).
  5. Failure to adapt our industry to a globalized world.
  6. Excessively high bank spreads.
  7. A terrible business environment, particularly due to the tax system.
There are other reasons for sure, but I'd say most people would agree those are the most important ones. Also, here's my effortpost on the Workers' Party, in case you haven't read it.
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2023.05.28 02:56 Swimming-Ad2480 My thoughts on overwatch

I've always thought of overwatch as a casual game, that's how it was initially designed and built. 6 players play whatever characters appeals to them, loosely based around an objective and let em' go at it. Some overwatch 2 players may not remember that when overwatch started, it was 6 players that could play any role, character and as many duplicates of the character as you wanted. 12 Wintons at once? Possible. 12 dva ults being launched one after the other making point A hanamura look more bombed than Iraq? Plausible.
The thing about that ruleset was that by default it made the game feel more casual, better. With the addition of role queue and restricting hero choice forced the game to be more competitive than it was created to be. This is why I defaulted to open queue, arcade and custom games in the twilight years of ow1 and more recently overwatch 2. In these modes, overwatch just feels right . Not restricted by silly rules and limitations.
Overwatch was never a competitive game, and it should have never been changed to try and suit the competitive audience and therefor esports.(One reason why OWL was a massive blunder, doomed from the start.) Overwatch was always a game about self expression, teamwork (synergy), and player fantasy. You don't get an edgy bowman that controls twin spirit dragons in other games, at least none with the charm hanzo has. You don't get a gay supersoldier in valorant. You don't get a floating sentient robotic monk that bashes you In the cranium with his balls for 10-50 minutes in apex.
Overwatch had a character for all types to identify with ( whether the character behaved like them, looked like them, came from the same background as them or dealt with the same issues as them or wanted to be more like them, everyone had someone they liked in ow1) also, the player could easily tell what most hero's do and their personalities just by looking at them or how they play Ingame (another reason why overwatch characters are so memorable and great)
No other games have that kind of expression mixed with intuitive design quite like most of the overwatch cast do (TF2 has great, memorable characters that are very intuitive to play, but not as varied.) making each character just have a charm to them that other games can't mach. You can't look at omen from val and think "oh this guy does X." rein? If you CANT tell what "big German hammer man in rocket propelled power armor with a massive shield" does you've got issues bigger than what reddit can help you with. The incredible VA work also helps bring the characters to life. (especially the ram, sigma, rein, ana and widow VAs...just so damn good)
The restrictions placed in how you play the game, the removal of a tank, and the poor balance work have all worked to stifle the spirit the game used to have, its still there in brief moments (more specifically when everyone in the lobby is on King's Row playing legacy OW1 characters) it's mostly been stamped out in a more modernised, more "BaLaNcED" experience. While it's upsetting to see you can always adapt and overcome the challenges presented by poor balancing, no matter how boring the "double sniper funymonkhero" meta gets. But it's the removal of a real Pve that's been the thing that's made me consider leaving the game for good.
I've never really voiced it but I was always a lore goober for this game, I was always so interested in a campaign type gamemode, as overwatch does not only have a great setting and great, expressive, beloved characters. It's backed by the BEST when it comes to making excellent PvE stories PvE games. (Or...was, we will see when D4 is playable) the fact that we were promised a real story mode if not pve mode was secretly the biggest driver for me to keep playing the game and sticking with it through thick and thin. Now that that's gone? I'm just feeling a bit betrayed, that this original vision of something I supported with my time and my money was just thrown away by the vocal minority of competitive players, poor balancing and terrible mismanagement on part of the blizzard execs.
Overwatch was always a game I could go to and play whenever I wanted to escape the world for a bit and pretend I was a cybernetic ninja. Nowadays it just feels more like a product (I know it IS a product, well done sherlock) than an experience , the overwatch that took me through some of the tougher times in my life thus far and gave me something I could enjoy at least for a while. Now it just feels more like one of those shitty assembly-line marvel movies that are just flashy colours, costumes and actors with shit scripts. ( a way of saying a low quality rehash of what we've seen before, just another low effort money grab )
Overwatch will never have the same profound effect it once had on us in the old days and it likely never will. Don't take the game too serious and you'll have a good time. And don't quit the game because some idiot on YouTube/reddit told you that leaving the game would make positive change. If you enjoy the game, keep playing. You're not "part of the problem" for playing a game you like. (Besides, we all saw what happened to ow1 when the game died down in popularity).
Cheers for reading all the way through, hope this resonated with some of you.
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2023.05.28 02:42 uyhs_throwaway Been ghosted before, but this one is pretty tough to take...

I'm not a regular Reddit user. I'm a pretty private person and don't discuss my dating life even with my closest friends, so this seemed like the best place for it. I'm not looking for any sympathy or anything like that, and I'm sure there are plenty of ghosting stories shared here and that this is nothing new or revelatory. I just made this throwaway account to post this for the catharsis of getting it off my chest
A couple of months ago I (40M) matched with a woman (36F) on Hinge. I'd been on there for about 7 or 8 months and was getting fewer matches so was thinking of taking a break - I'd actually told myself I was going to delete the app on what turned out to be the day after she liked my profile. The day we matched we ended up messaging until something like 2:30am, sending each other longer and longer messages (before this I hadn't realised WhatsApp truncates messages over a certain length with a 'Read more' at the bottom) and within a couple of days we'd both acknowledged to each other that we felt there was definitely something between us. The majority of dating app conversations tend to follow a certain pattern, the same topics and questions being revisited over and over, but I don't think we even asked each other what we did for work. This was different, interesting, free-flowing, the conversation came incredibly easily and I was starting to feel about her in a way I hadn't felt about anyone for a long time.
The following week we went on a date, which went amazingly well ('sign of a good first date' cliché alerts - losing track of time, being the last ones in the bar and having to be told the place was closing). We both agreed the date was perfect and agreed to arrange a second date for the week after.
A couple of days before, she asked if we could push the second date back by a couple of days as she was really busy with work commitments, which was fine. The night before the re-arranged date, she asked to push it back another couple of days. Having been ghosted before, by this point certain things were starting to seem a bit off as by the third re-arranged date I still hadn't heard from her since a few days before, so I made backup plans for that evening, which I ended up needing. I sent her a polite message explaining what I thought was happening and just saying I would rather she would be honest if she'd changed her mind and didn't want to meet again.
The day after she responded, apologising for missing the date and explaining that it was just work commitments being too much, that she'd handled the situation poorly and didn't want to come across as a red flag but that she definitely still wanted to meet again. We arranged another date, which was again cancelled, before I went on holiday for a couple of weeks. During that time things seemed to be returning to how we'd been communicating when we first matched, and we both expressed how much we were looking forward to finally meeting again once I was back from holiday. Her work commitments were less hectic than they had been before, and a fifth prospective Second Date date was arranged.
Perhaps unsurprisingly, this was also cancelled as she was feeling 'drained', expressing the same sentiments of regret, not wanting to be a red flag etc, and suggesting an alternative date the following week, which I couldn't do. The last message I received from her was a few days later, which is now over a week ago, talking about things going further between us, but that she couldn't reply properly to a long message just then, but was looking forward to continuing the conversation.
I've been happy to give her time and space and not expecting replies every day, but after several more days of silence the red flag of ghosting was starting to fly higher. I sent her a short message asking if everything was ok, which is still only grey ticked. I can see that she's been active on social media every day since her last message, so I've finally done what I probably should have done the first time around - if there are red flags, however small, they're most likely there for a reason. Trust your head, no matter how much your head tries to tell you otherwise.
As someone who's been using dating apps on and off for a number of years and had a few experiences like this (although nowhere near as severe as this, which leaves me feeling worthless, stupid, desperate and a whole host of other negative emotions) it feels like the last straw for me. Is the hope of finding someone for a long term relationship strong enough to risk being put through this again? Right now it isn't.
I know it's hard to tell someone you don't want to see them anymore. It's disappointing to be told that someone doesn't want to see you anymore, but when it's done with honesty it's easy to accept. The hurt caused isn't because of someone wanting to break things off, it's the letting you figure it out for yourself while having all kinds of conflicting emotions going through your head that does.
TL:DR: Ghosting is cruel, please don't do it.
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2023.05.28 01:29 Gothicus1016 Love that I can be writing a novel one moment and reading the second Harry Potter the next 🥰🪄

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2023.05.28 01:10 Gothmom85 Medicare for dummies?

After planning to move my mother into a home with us, trying to figure out why she was so unwell, we've gotten some pretty difficult diagnosis this weekend at the hospital. Heart problems and metastasized cancer.
My mother has Humana gold plus Medicare. Her case worker at the hospital said we had to reapply and see if we can get additional insurance like long term Medicaid. I'm going to be working on that. A kind redditor pointed me to this subreddit and let me know she can change Humana to regular Medicare in January. Gave me a simplified explanation. We may not have until January. We might be looking at hospice care soon. I'll know more once more tests are done. We're getting POA and directives signed soon. I have her living will.
What can I do right now? How do I navigate? I've contacted my city's adult services office and left voicemails. The regular care workesocial worker will be at the hospital Tuesday after the holidays.
I have no clue how to navigate any of this. We went from mom needs a bit of help, to this quite suddenly. I live in VA. I'll take any advice or explanation because I am seriously out of my depth right now.
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2023.05.28 00:45 srevennreverof *also posted in r/legaladvice* (California) My Landlords are trying to amend the lease in the middle of it and are doing a bunch of other things that seem shady. Help please? More info in post.

Again, I have already posted this in legaladvice as I'm trying to get as much advice as I can and I don't think my posts are being seen.
So this is a little all over the place as there is a lot going on. I'm trying my best to summarize. Please bear with me and feel free to ask me any questions in the comments if I need to clarify something.
So, since I moved into this house a couple years ago we have always paid the landlords rent and then a flat rate for utilities. Me and all the roommates I've had since living here have always been fine with that. Early in the year they raised the rent a tiny bit and at the beginning of May they raised the utilities flat rate by about 33% (both the rent increase and utilities increase all of us tenants were fine with and signed off on) and then on Thursday my landlords sent us a text explaining that they would be switching everything so that we would have to pay our own utilities in our own name as they realized that they have been undercharging us this whole time.
On the surface that seems super reasonable and we have no problem with paying for our own utilities under our name, but there are a couple caveats. First off, the landlords live on-site. There are three buildings on the property. Our house (3 bedroom), their house (1 bedroom) and their garage that we do not have access to. I have to mention that they use their garage for lots of things all the time, they have an office in there, running water, a full bar, they do band practice, host karaoke night, etc. I don't understand why they think they have been undercharging us this whole time if the garage has been on the same meter. They said they have a spreadsheet they created that details everything but we have never once seen any actual bill or anything for any utilities.
They have expressed that they are going to have their electrician come out and rewire the garage so that it's not on our meter. Is there any way to get proof of this? Also, the garage gas is on our meter as well and they have not said anything about that.
Beyond that, there are several things happening that I think are not up to code. In early 2022 we asked for heat as we didn't have heat in the house and they said that it would be a major construction and they got us electric space heaters instead. They are these weird panels hung on the wall and they barely warm up anything. We live in an old house with crappy insulation and thin windows and hardwood floors. So obviously if we end up paying for our own electric bill it is probably going to be through the roof in the winter as we have to use a bunch of space heaters to keep warm rather than gas which I've heard would be cheaper. Also they have random things that I think might be plugged into our house anyway so I'm not feeling great about this either way. Also last summer they installed a window AC unit in my room that has heat as well which works okay in the winter, but it is plugged into an extension cord that is plugged into an outlet splitter plugged into an outlet. The power cord wouldn't reach any outlets from the window they put it in. There are windows that are closer to the outlet but the landlord's kiln is under it so they had to move it farther. I'm pretty paranoid about a fire or something since it's plugged into an extension cord and outlet splitter.
They also mentioned that a decent portion of the flat utility rate we pay each month goes to the Tesla solar panels which are on the roof of our house. This is not in the lease or in writing at all, up until this new "lease amendment" that they are wanting us to sign. I am the only original tenant and I don't remember them saying anything about the solar panels, and my new roommates that both moved in recently were not told about these at all. I don't understand why we're paying so much for solar panels and still paying a lot in utilities. It doesn't seem like it's benefitting us to have solar panels but we know nothing about solar panels so we don't know how to find out.
They gave us this notice on Thursday and they want us to sign it by Monday (we're all very busy with work over the holiday weekend). I have called a ton of places such as the housing authority and legal aid and fair housing, but none of them were able to help me unfortunately. I'd like to avoid contacting an attorney as we've mostly been on good terms with our landlords and I'd like it to remain that way but I feel like there's something weird going on and I want to make sure that we're not being taken advantage of.
Thanks in advance for your help, I can answer any questions in the comments.
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2023.05.27 23:58 Female-Fart-Huffer Is it reasonable to ask a vendor to overnight a package for free if they messed up and didn't ship on time?

I ordered from the same vendor as I have for the past several months. The cutoff time is 3pm on Saturdays. I ordered at 2:25pm and it was not shipped today. Like a lot of small businesses I guess, they decided to randomly close up shop early. Absolutely infuriating. That means that with the holiday they will send it out Tuesday NIGHT after the cutoff of 6pm on Tuesdays. I really cannot afford to wait "3-5 business days" after that. I have already sent the vendor several emails and don't want to be annoying (particularly since many of the "different" vendors appear to be operated by the same person given similar website formats and nearly identical wording). But I want that package sent out via USPS Express (instead of priority) on Tuesday. I may be willing to pay the cost of express shipping minus the normal shipping cost (because I paid for priority and they fucked up with that), but I feel like they owe me 1-2 day express shipping for not being honest in their advertisement that all packages ship the same day if ordered by the cutoff and should cover shipping costs (or charge me the ground rate...because that is how long it will take). They promise priority shipping same day and I am going to receive the package a week later due to error on their part. I certainly overpaid on shipping from that perspective. They didn't honor that and it wasn't like I ordered at 2:59. No, they decided to stop operations early knowing full well it is a 3 day weekend. At the very least, would it be reasonable to ask that they ship it first thing in the morning on Tuesday rather than sending it out with all the other Tuesday orders at night?

The alternative is to cancel the order and pay for Express myself from a different vendor.... on Tuesday.
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2023.05.27 23:01 Agitated-Stuff4584 (California) My Landlords are trying to amend the lease in the middle of it and are doing a bunch of other things that seem shady. Help please? More info in post.

Throwaway just incase.
So this is a little all over the place as there is a lot going on. I'm trying my best to summarize. Please bear with me and feel free to ask me any questions in the comments if I need to clarify something.
So, since I moved into this house a couple years ago we have always paid the landlords rent and then a flat rate for utilities. Me and all the roommates I've had since living here have always been fine with that. Early in the year they raised the rent a tiny bit and at the beginning of May they raised the utilities flat rate by about 33% (both the rent increase and utilities increase all of us tenants were fine with and signed off on) and then on Thursday my landlords sent us a text explaining that they would be switching everything so that we would have to pay our own utilities in our own name as they realized that they have been undercharging us this whole time.
On the surface that seems super reasonable and we have no problem with paying for our own utilities under our name, but there are a couple caveats. First off, the landlords live on-site. There are three buildings on the property. Our house (3 bedroom), their house (1 bedroom) and their garage that we do not have access to. I have to mention that they use their garage for lots of things all the time, they have an office in there, running water, a full bar, they do band practice, host karaoke night, etc. I don't understand why they think they have been undercharging us this whole time if the garage has been on the same meter. They said they have a spreadsheet they created that details everything but we have never once seen any actual bill or anything for any utilities.
They have expressed that they are going to have their electrician come out and rewire the garage so that it's not on our meter. Is there any way to get proof of this? Also, the garage gas is on our meter as well and they have not said anything about that.
Beyond that, there are several things happening that I think are not up to code. In early 2022 we asked for heat as we didn't have heat in the house and they said that it would be a major construction and they got us electric space heaters instead. They are these weird panels hung on the wall and they barely warm up anything. We live in an old house with crappy insulation and thin windows and hardwood floors. So obviously if we end up paying for our own electric bill it is probably going to be through the roof in the winter as we have to use a bunch of space heaters to keep warm rather than gas which I've heard would be cheaper. Also they have random things that I think might be plugged into our house anyway so I'm not feeling great about this either way. Also last summer they installed a window AC unit in my room that has heat as well which works okay in the winter, but it is plugged into an extension cord that is plugged into an outlet splitter plugged into an outlet. The power cord wouldn't reach any outlets from the window they put it in. There are windows that are closer to the outlet but the landlord's kiln is under it so they had to move it farther. I'm pretty paranoid about a fire or something since it's plugged into an extension cord and outlet splitter.
They also mentioned that a decent portion of the flat utility rate we pay each month goes to the Tesla solar panels which are on the roof of our house. This is not in the lease or in writing at all, up until this new "lease amendment" that they are wanting us to sign. I am the only original tenant and I don't remember them saying anything about the solar panels, and my new roommates that both moved in recently were not told about these at all. I don't understand why we're paying so much for solar panels and still paying a lot in utilities. It doesn't seem like it's benefitting us to have solar panels but we know nothing about solar panels so we don't know how to find out.
They gave us this notice on Thursday and they want us to sign it by Monday (we're all very busy with work over the holiday weekend). I have called a ton of places such as the housing authority and legal aid and fair housing, but none of them were able to help me unfortunately. I'd like to avoid contacting an attorney as we've mostly been on good terms with our landlords and I'd like it to remain that way but I feel like there's something weird going on and I want to make sure that we're not being taken advantage of.
Thanks in advance for your help, I can answer any questions in the comments.
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2023.05.27 22:06 Ok-Abalone5478 What does this mean??

For context: we’ve been seeing each other exclusively for 2-3 months and really like each other. But he is the least emotional and expressive man I’ve ever dated (and I’m very emotional), so sometimes I don’t know what his “reactions” to my text messages mean….because we don’t really communicate or think or feel the same way.
And he’s one of those start up founders that’s working 24/7 and that’s all he thinks about…and he doesn’t really have much social interaction except his family, his daughter, me and his like one or two best friends….so he comes off a little socially awkward at times.
Tl;dr: need help comprehending texts
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2023.05.27 22:04 Ok-Abalone5478 What does this mean??

For context: we’ve been seeing each other exclusively for 2-3 months and really like each other. But he is the least emotional and expressive man I’ve ever dated (and I’m very emotional), so sometimes I don’t know what his “reactions” to my text messages mean….because we don’t really communicate or think or feel the same way.
And he’s one of those start up founders that’s working 24/7 and that’s all he thinks about…and he doesn’t really have much social interaction except his family, his daughter, me and his like one or two best friends….so he comes off a little socially awkward at times.
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2023.05.27 22:03 Ok-Abalone5478 What does this mean??

For context: we’ve been seeing each other exclusively for 2-3 months and really like each other. But he is the least emotional and expressive man I’ve ever dated (and I’m very emotional), so sometimes I don’t know what his “reactions” to my text messages mean….because we don’t really communicate or think or feel the same way.
And he’s one of those start up founders that’s working 24/7 and that’s all he thinks about…and he doesn’t really have much social interaction except his family, his daughter, me and his like one or two best friends….so he comes off a little socially awkward at times.
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2023.05.27 21:49 Big_b00bs_Cold_Heart I was told my “personality sucks” by someone claiming to be my bestie.

20-25 years ago, I was diagnosed as bipolar. It took forever to find a medication that worked for me. I kept building up a tolerance to it and the dosage kept getting increased. It got to the point that I was taking far more than the FDA recommended amount and it stopped working. It took over 15 years to get to that point, but it did. I was suicidal. A different medication was tried, still suicidal. Another medication, suicidal ideation worsened. After three or four rounds of experimenting with different regimens, I quit meds. I feel better than I have in decades! I’m no longer suicidal, I’ve had friends express how much happier I seem. I’ve been told I’m calmer, more fun to be around. Until last night. Out of the blue, my friend asked me when I was going to go to the VA and get put back on meds. When I said I wasn’t, she told me my “personality sucks”. Now I’m questioning how well I’m doing unmedicated. I reached out to two of my closest friends, they disagreed with the sucking personality comment.
People who have never been on psych meds have no idea how hard it is trying to acclimate to new drugs. Your brain is Swiss cheese, your body deals with various side effects, and you have to take the meds for at least a month to see if there’s any benefit to them. Some meds, like lamotrigine need even longer to build up to a therapeutic level before you realize it isn’t working.
When I said I’d rather suck than be suicidal, she just flippantly said, “Just try a different drug.”
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2023.05.27 21:46 Ham_Pants_ Everyone exit in an orderly fashion.

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2023.05.27 21:32 daaangerz0ne IHG booking continuous days vs in segments

I'm about to book a 12 day stay at Holiday Inn in Guangzhou, China. I have a question about how to proceed with the booking.
First of all, the factors in place:
  1. I have the Chase IHG Premier card so every 4th continuous night is free.
  2. IHG is running an additional promo that gives 10K points for a 4 night stay.
  3. I have around 80K IHG points, enough for about 6 days. Will pay for the remainder on the card.
The question:
Is there a benefit to booking 12 days all together, vs booking in 4 day segments?
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2023.05.27 21:28 yuitsumunni My (23F) boyfriend's (23M) friends left me out while planning our weekend all together

First time writing here really and I needed to vent this out because I have no one else to tell.
So for context, my bf was planning a 3 day weekend to his secondary house with his uni friends and I was invited. I already met his friends once with no deep interaction and met another one (who I will call Justin) which I appreciate since I’ve met him a few times. His friends are the number of 5, plus him and me would make 7 for the weekend.
The weekend was planned originally planned for last week but was reported this week with the holidays.So his friends asked my bf out for a drink to talk about the house we'd be staying in for the weekend. (I’ve already went there a few times). I wasn't really invited, but my boyfriend asked if I wanted to go anyway. As I don't really know his friends, I thought it would be a good opportunity to catch the mood and meet them for a drink, so I wouldn't feel uncomfortable not knowing them before arriving on the big day.
On the day of our meeting, we arrived a little late, as 3 of his friends were already seated. When we arrived, they were already deep in conversation, and not a single glance was cast at my boyfriend or me. We say good evening, with a little return from I don't know who, without really looking at each other. I feel the atmosphere, I don't feel it and I send a message to my boyfriend "I won't be coming with you this weekend." My hunch was right and I'll tell you why.
So we waited for two other people, including Justin, while the other 3 talked in their corners, about subjects I didn't understand, since I wasn't they would talk about uni. My boyfriend had to explain to me some of the stories they were telling, so that I wouldn't be excluded from the conversation, even though I already had been since I sat down with them. One of the two eventually arrived, but after a few minutes or so, my boyfriend asked when Justin was coming. "He's not coming, he's working" says one of his buddies. Inwardly disappointed, because he's the only person I've ever really talked to, even if it was only for one afternoon, I keep quiet.
So the conversation about the house begins. It was quite funny, even if no one looked at me to include me in the conversation. You have to realize that the house they're going to is a country house that my boyfriend's family only uses about 2-3 times a year. It's dusty, some of the walls aren't painted, the beds are old, the shower pressure isn't great, the gas stove is broken... But it's still usable, and it's a great way to get away from the city. The questions start: "Is there a fridge?" "Are there any beds??" "Is there even a house??" Funny questions, as my boyfriend had sold the house to them as almost haunted and run-down. That's when I tried to join in the conversation, like the question of "Why is the gas stove broken? How are we going to cook?" I replied that I could lend a portable stove, just in case. I got a few glances in my direction, but no response and no desire to join the conversation, as this continued throughout all the questions. As soon as I started to open my mouth, only my boyfriend would answer and listen to me. I quickly gave up trying to speak, as I was completely excluded.
But on to the moments I tried to join the convo, before completely shutting down.
Normally, they knew I was coming to the weekend, as my boyfriend had told them beforehand. That's when I reached my limit: they started talking about rooms and beds and who was going to sit in the car. My boyfriend was the one who’ll drive the car, and his is a 5-seater. One of them exclaims that he'll sit up front and manage the music. The others were already making plans on who would sit in the car. But where would I sit? The car would be complete with my boyfriend and his friends. Justin is coming by rail. I even wondered if my boyfriend had really planned for me to be there in the first place, because another one should’ve took the train as well since it’s a 5 seater… They talked about rooms and beds. Ditto, in their plans, listening to them, it’s like I wasn't sleeping anywhere, because there was no mention of me in the conversation.
From then on, I was completely silent, but I was still smiling out of politeness. I wanted so much to leave and disappear. I don't think I've ever been so excluded in my life as I was that night. I only had 1% of my battery left, but my only entertainment was to talk to a group of friends about it on my phone, while the conversation was in full swing.My boyfriend would sometimes ask me if I wanted to go back home (he had the keys), but I'd say no, because he doesn't see them very often and also because I didn't want him to sacrifice himself for me. I'd also like to mention that I wasn't the only one excluded; my boyfriend was too, but he didn't mind so much. They were talking about uni and stuff that happened on parties he wasn’t there etc. It bothered me a lot more, because I couldn't imagine spending a weekend with people who didn't look at me or talk to me once during the conversation. (That's an exaggeration, because one of the girls asked if I was feeling better, as my boyfriend hadn't been able to go to one of their parties with them because of me. I had an allergic reaction and was transferred to the emergency room and my bf stayed with me during that night). Even if I'm exaggerating, that's how I felt that night.
My boyfriend insisted we go home and on the moment we were leaving, not even a "see you Friday night [guys]" or what so ever was ever pronounced when we left. Just some regular goodbyes towards my bf. I believed that I was totally invisible at that point. On the walk home, I was pretty angry at my boyfriend: "Your friends are bastards. Luckily I was able to see them before coming with you for the weekend. I was completely excluded from the party, is that normal?" My boyfriend tried to make excuses for them. "They're nice, at least when you get to know them... I promise you they're caring." Caring? You've got to be kidding me. I slept awfully mad in his arms.
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It's the weekend. My boyfriend calls to tell me that he's taken his friends aside to explain what happened. He gives me a rather vague account, but says that everyone's sorry and that they hadn't realized. They're really sorry, and apparently someone even asked, "Isn't your girlfriend coming?” No shit Sherlock, I don't know if they asked that after they got to the house or before they left, but maybe it was something to think about. My boyfriend would have replied, "No, she's not coming, but considering what you've done, you've screwed up and if I were in her place I wouldn't have come either". It was already 11pm. I dont know exactly when they said that to him though.
According to him, his friends are sincere about the apology, but I don't accept it. I'm still angry today and I haven't been able to let off steam all day, even if I did get high at the gym. During our call, I was still expressing that I was mad at them and would never want to interact with them again. It may sound childish, but how can you make someone so invisible? I hate setting people apart in groups so much, I know only too well what it's like to be that person and it happened again. Still during our call, my bf tried again to put himself in their shoes and make excuses for them even though he says he doesn't validate their actions. I was even more upset because I didn't get a message from him saying they'd arrived and had to ask, and I know how long it takes to get from his house to this one as I've already been there.That’s pretty much it.
Anyway, I had to get this story true out of my chest. Thanks for reading.
TLDR: We were going away for the weekend with my boyfriend's friends, my boyfriend and me. During a meeting at the pub before the weekend, I met them and wasn't included at all in the conversation. They talked as if they were only going with 6 people, whereas there were 7 of us in total, including me. No effort was made to integrate me in the convo and my bf tried to make excuses for them, I'm very disappointed and angry.
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2023.05.27 21:15 Own-Creme3673 Feedback over Holiday inn Gym

I go to Gold’s (Salmiya) and heard Holiday inn gym is good, any feedback?
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2023.05.27 21:13 WyattDowell In (some) defense of AirBnB

In defense of airbnb... I got a staunch reminder this weekend of what the hotel industry was like once upon a time. Moving between a few hotels outside the US on a business trip, and it's been an experience.
All beds were unturned on arrival, had to wait over two hrs past check-in at one to use my room. Checked out ten minutes late at another and got hit with a full day of charges. Tap water is not potable in one city, and I didn't realize it until after landing. No smoke detectors anywhere, even after a hot water heater caught on fire.
Rooms have been a maze of surprise charges- one just charged me for shampoo, another for a bottle of water (in the city with the undrinkable tap water). I asked to move rooms away from the bar (early flight out) and got treated with concept and hit with an extra charge. Nowhere has an actual free airport shuttle, despite all of them advertising one online at booking.
Airbnb has more issues than would fit in this post. I personally decided to cease and desist with them many months ago.
But dear god, has it forced the US hotel industry to provide an actual service instead of a commodity. At the end of the day, I'm finally having a toast to this stupid website, with my earplugs in as I await my €50 "free" airport shuttle from the €100 side of this hotel. I might get rested knowing a Holiday Inn in won't pull this on me stateside, because on the whole they've got vague competition.
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