T rex vs allosaurus

English is my second language I hope you will forgive my mistakes. Let's have a quick background, shall we? I, 18 female, at the peak of lockdown made an Anime based gc on Fb. It was a Group chat that was quite successful. It was a safe space I created for online strangers to come together and talk about their traumas and get comfort. The Gc became a community, a safe place for me. And I was quite close with the members of the gc.
My best friend that I met through the same Gc was one of the first members of it. And since we were from the same country we hit it off well. My best friend, Let's call her Sam, was someone I trusted deeply. Enough to share the traumas that I never shared with anyone. Fast forward to two months after the Gc creation, a new member was added, We will call him Mel. At very first Mel was nothing but a stranger with whom I interacted once or twice in the gc. One night when I was sharing my concern about having trouble with coding, Mel offered to help. We went to DM's and started talking from then. Mel became a friend, from a stranger. As we talked and chatted, I found out he was the sweetest boy. He was dating someone at the time. But due to some reason, it wasn't working out. After a few weeks, I found myself chatting to him every day. Talking to him was my comfort. I found myself crushing over him.
And As I mentioned above. I shared my situation with Sam. (NOTE: Now Sam and Mel never interacted privately.) I was a hopeless person who fell in love quickly. As my feelings became deeper I shared my concern with Sam. She and I both agreed that it would be better if I confessed and then got rejected. That way My feeling might stop. And so I did. But to my surprise, Mel didn't reject it. He said he also liked me. But since he was still dating his then-current Gf he needed some time to sort things out and told me to wait. I did wait. I reassured him to not think about my feelings and choose what was best for him. After some days he told me he and his gf split up, but he still needed some time to reciprocate my feelings. And yet again told me to wait. And wait I did. It was uncertain that he was gonna return my feeling. For weeks after that, we kept talking and I kept falling harder for him. But with the increase of my fondness for him, I started getting insecure. At that point, Sam and Mel had started talking. They started chatting when Mel wanted to learn my language. And yes sam knew everything.
Just waiting when I wasn't even certain that my feelings would be returned, I decided to ask Mel to reject me or return my feelings as it was taking quite a toll on me. I already had massive trust issues. It was quite hard for me. But he insisted I waited and that he liked me. He said he couldn't reject the girl he loved. Again For two weeks, it went on like that. Me begging him to reject me and crush my hopes and him denying to reject me. And I finally caved in and told him that I will wait for him to get his shit straight. And everything was good again. Sam was informed about everything. After some days I found Mel and my conversations getting little and little and dryer day by day. Again I felt insecure but convinced myself that it was okay and that I was overthinking. I shared my concerns with Sam. I cried my eyes out as I chatted with her. And she also said that I was overthinking. I started noticing how close Mel and Sam had gotten. But didn't think twice about it. I mean sam was my BFF right? What could happen? They had every right to chat with each other.
But how wrong I was. After a week Mel suddenly said he couldn't return my feelings. I felt as if someone crushed my heart. My heart broke. But, I didn't want him to feel guilty. So, I said that I respected his choices. Then I proceeded to bawl my eyes to Sam. She comforted me saying That maybe we weren't meant to be.
The next day with a heavy heart I chatted with the gc. To find non-other the My very best friend and Mel flirting with each other. I was flabbergasted. It wasn't a news about what was happening between me and Mel. Everyone knew, so, when I asked the gc what was going on. The other dropped the bombshell on me. Saying that Mel and Sam were dating!!?? At first, I didn't believe it so I Dm'ed Sam and... She confirmed it. I felt a range of emotions swirling inside of me. Rage, betrayal. I felt
cheated and disappointed. Out of rage, I blocked both of them. But after some consideration I thought maybe I was acting childish so I again unblocked them. Then Mel apologised saying he was sorry for leading me on. I told him it might take time for me to forgive them. But it was after all their choice. I still broken-hearted gave them my blessings.
I couldn't contain my emotions and I told everything to a very dear friend whom I regarded as my younger brother. We will call him Rex. I cried to Rex. Then when I chatted in the gc seeing Mel and Sam all over each other, knowing I was in the gc. It broke my heart but I just kept quiet and chatted normally. My chats weren't as cheerful as usual, and Rex caught up on it. He directly confronted Mel and Sam in the Gc. Saying that they should be considerate of my feelings. I told him to stop in Dms but he didn't. He kept taunting them every time they flirted. I didn't want to create drama. So I was forced to stop him in the gc. And right after that, I got a message from Mel saying that my actions were upsetting HIS girl. And that I should be more considerate towards her feelings and he didn't want Sam to feel guilt. That was it. The emotions I was suppressing blew up. I saw red with rage.
I made another Fb ACC and said I was a friend of mine. I screamed and cussed at Mel. I told him he was an A-hole for leading me on. Now that was my fault I shouldn't have made a new ID but gave him a piece of my mind with my Id. I was childish and still didn't want to break off the friendship. But there was too much damage done. Feeling guilty I decided to leave the gc. I said my goodbyes to my friends in the gc without mentioning any of the above incidents. But after left a gc member sent my ss of how Sam, Mel and a few of my close friends were saying I was playing the victim card. The whole gc sided with Sam and Mel while only Rex sided with me. I was accused of manipulating Sam. Being a bitch. This time I was done. I didn't want to be misunderstood as a manipulative bitch. So I ask an admin to add me back and give me the admin. I was one-sidedly accused of being manipulative. (Will give details if you all want) When I confronted them they just threw baseless claims about me being homophobic. And their proof was a convo I and Sam had. (I will add the ss) And so I lashed out at them and cut off my connection with them. The whole Gc, The community that I had worked so hard to build was torn apart.
This is what mel had to say about me after all this incident.
[ "kindly please leave" there i kindly left, now use one bit of braincell to ask yourself as to why you're petty as fuck. Had never seen you care one bit about your partner when it mattered, always just bossing her around as if she's a robot. Your default of manipulating literally everyone by using "trust", "friends", "love" cause it appeals to their emotion and you get what you want shows how much of a
con
you are. Knowing how weak my girl is to guilt tripping, leaving the GC deactivating, and using another account to stir up some shit in another GC where my girlfriend is. Even involving Lee in to this mess cause she knows the message will get to me. We're not a dumbass, stop pretending like we're idiots who can't see the obvious. Let's get this over with, we'll be a happy couple and you stay a miserable controlling fuck by not coming anywhere near our vicinity. ]
I am to this day still conflicted about whether I was wrong. So I want Reddit to pass on the judgement. If I was wrong please do point it out so that I can improve myself.
So Reddit, AITA for lashing out at my ex-crush and best friend after they got together?

I’m in a bit of a pickle with the sub-zero vs jaqui tutorial, bc I connected the whole combo, but the game doesn’t give me the “completed” check

I like the growth from him. He still has a lot to learn. This is his first time having power. The old cane would’ve pulled a gun on Obi for that Diana picture. I like that he didn’t react. The old cane would’ve ignored Dru idea and start a damn war. I liked that he listened and put his ideas in with dru. The old cane would’ve not even listen to Tariq idea he would’ve shrugged it off. I like that he listened to Brayden and Tariq and observed. Cane definitely knows Brayden didn’t kill lauren. I think when Lorenzo dies Cane punishment is gonna be guilt eating him up. The writers are starting to set up Effie and Cane. I do see foreshadowing from Lorenzo when he looked at Dru making a plan. That tells me Dru vs Cane is coming soon. I think cane is gonna end up leaving the business to Dru to build his own.

So I walked into Costco and saw cheap generic vodka and i saw the name brand goose which was 2x more expensive.
I’ve experimented with my body and it takes about 3 shots of vodka to get me drunk. If I take 3 shots of the generic vodka vs 3 shots of goose , will there be a difference?
I mean I don’t understand, is it the taste ? What’s causing the gap in price . Will I be more drunk or get drunk longer with goose because it’s more expensive?

I like the growth from him. He still has a lot to learn. This is his first time having power. The old cane would’ve pulled a gun on Obi for that Diana picture. I like that he didn’t react. The old cane would’ve ignored Dru idea and start a damn war. I liked that he listened and put his ideas in with dru. The old cane would’ve not even listen to Tariq idea he would’ve shrugged it off. I like that he listened to Brayden and Tariq and observed. Cane definitely knows Brayden didn’t kill lauren. I think when Lorenzo dies Cane punishment is gonna be guilt eating him up. The writers are starting to set up Effie and Cane. I do see foreshadowing from Lorenzo when he looked at Dru making a plan. That tells me Dru vs Cane is coming soon. I think cane is gonna end up leaving the business to Dru to build his own.

The better to kiss you with? The Tyrannosaurus rex may have had scaly lips that covered their teeth. Researchers said depictions of the predator with giant flashing teeth, fully visible, might be incorrect. In a study published Thursday in the journal Science, paleontologists compared skulls and living reptiles. Their findings distorted the image of the … Continue reading T. rex may have had big scaly lips, study says

we’ve been dating a little over a year now, semi-long distance (she lives a couple hours away and i see her a couple days every week but a good amount of our relationship is also text/call based, this happened over text/phone call) we’re having a normal conversation, just asked her how her day was, etc., she’s talking about her day, totally normal, then i jump in the shower and come out like 20 minutes later to a message saying “you are literally two different people”
i asked her what that meant, and got kind of worried because i remember months ago her bringing up an issue she had where she felt like i acted differently around my friends vs her, but since then, i’ve gotten a lot better and given her the purest most truest version of myself (previously i’d kind of been holding back, i was scared to fuck things up i guess). but anyways i’m going off on a tangent. point being, she’s said something like that before, and i had improved on it, now months later she says something similar. i don’t know where it came from or if it was a joke or what, we tease each other all the time but it’s a little difficult for me to know when she’s teasing over text.
she didnt respond when i asked her what she meant, and instead texted back a couple hours later about a completely different topic. i asked her again and she said she was gonna go to bed. we called before bed as usual, when i asked her again. clearly at this point i’m pretty distressed by it, even more distressed because she won’t talk to me about it. she just joked it off, didnt really explain anything just sort of made a joke about it.
i asked her if everything was okay with her, and she jokingly said that if i asked that again she’d hang up. i told her that what she said just made me feel weird and i was just making sure. she didn’t really say anything, we exchanged i love you’s and went to sleep.
i don’t really know if i should bring it up or not. she sent me the usual good morning text it doesnt seem like anything’s bothering her, but i dunno she was acting kind of odd last night imo. it couldve just been that it was a joke and she was tired last night and didn’t realize it was that worrisome to me, if she just meant it as an offhand comment. maybe i should just ignore it, i’m not sure
any thoughts?
tl;dr girlfriend made kind of a weird offhand remark last night and tried to change the subject or go silent whenever i brought it up

We know that while Meghs was a Senior Royal, she did not enjoy the mundane charity work—she had the fewest engagements out of all royals in 2019 (Catherine had 14 more during her pregnancy year), and only worked 72 total days as a Senior Royal.
While I do believe the primary factor for this is due to her not enjoying TRUE charity work (“I cannot believe I’m not getting paid for this”), we haven’t fully considered that the people at the charities/schools/retirement homes were underwhelmed and bored by her presence.
It’s not a one directional issue. It’s a feedback loop and part of the reason she never got in with the UN. She’s not well-received. USO Holiday Tour
This insight came up after listening to the Vanessa Grigoriadis podcast, where she characterized Meghan as difficult to get to know/be friends with (can’t recall exact language) and also watching a video posted here where she pushed her way in front of Harry—when you listened to her conversations she had very little compelling dialogue to contribute, even in comparison to the DumbPrince.
Flash forward to now, especially with heightened negative public sentiment. Could you imagine Meghs showing up to your school, retirement home, or food panty and people there feeling positive about her presence (juxtaposed with The Princess of Wales attendance or Camila’s)?
Instead of honor and genuine interest, people would gossip behind the scenes, have to bite their tongues, laugh, etc. Heck, as Rebel Wilson reported, you can’t even ask about her kids without her getting pissy.🤣
She’s a now a joke and only brings negative social media press and comments to organizations. No actual charity or organization in 2023 would be excited for her attendance, or even seek it. All moving forward, are because she has to pay/donate/beg to appear charitable, and the organizations have to consider the benefit ($100,000 donation) vs negative press, boredom, and [email protected]*yness. Which is more costly?

Hey guys, I’ve been trying to Google this for a few days and can’t seem to find a good answer.
My 2018 Ford Edge has a pressurized coolant reservoir. I’m needing to add coolant, but the coolant looks way lower when the cap is closed vs. when I open the reservoir. When I open the reservoir to add coolant, the amount of liquid in the tank comes up by quite a bit.
The question is, do I fill to the max/min line based on when the reservoir is closed and pressurized? Or should I go with what the coolant level is when the cap is off?
Thanks!

I’ve posted many times before and spoke to some interesting people but never “the one” and keeping up with the responses got a bit overwhelming.
Yes, my picture is the meme of the 40 something guy who never smiles. I assure you, I smile. Just not in selfies. If you do reply, please also send a picture. I feel it’s fair since I posted one.
I’m 41, single, no children and I live in San Diego. single since 2019. 5’10.5”, 189lbs. Ethnically ambiguous (Latino but people always think middle eastern) INFJ. Virgo. (I don’t put too much stock in that type of compatibility though).
What I am looking for in a potential partner:
I have few and very generic prerequisites. You should be a critical thinker. In the current climate of intentionally misleading headlines and generally biased news, I think being able to suss out what is real and what’s misleading is important.
I value intelligence. Like I don’t require a masters degree but I’d like to feel like the person I’m chatting with is somewhat smarter than me. I can’t 100% say I’m sapiosexual because I do want to be with someone I find attractive, but I’m most attracted to Intelligent people.
I really like people who generally laugh first before getting upset. People who can make a morbid joke in a bad (but not life threatening) situation. Like if you’re on a road trip to Vegas and get a flat tire. You could get really upset… or you could say “welllll I guess we’re going to be late picking up the hookers”.
In terms of introversion vs extroversion I don’t really have a preference. I get along with both. I’m an introvert who is always happy to go just about anywhere as long as you are the one dealing with the traffic and parking :)
I am generally never really bored. If I’m not pondering the nature of existence or having some sort of internal debate, I’m watching science documentaries or on Wikipedia or YouTube falling down a rabbit hole. I know a little bit about a lot of things and have an absurd amount of random but not quite useless information floating around in my head. I love deep talks. But I also love some good old fashioned low brow humor. Except dad jokes. I just can’t get into them.
I’m not religious. You could say I’m spiritual but not in a theological way. I don’t care if god exists and doubt god wound care what my thoughts were. I can’t really say I’m an atheist. I dislike extremes and absolutes. My motto is generally “I could be wrong” and it’s served me well in my times of existential crisis (which have become fewer as I’ve gotten older). I take comfort in my belief that there is no beginning or end. Time is a man made construct and nothing ever really ceases to be, it just changes. I don’t believe I will simply “stop existing” when I die. I don’t believe in heaven or hell. I think those concepts are tied to a superstitious belief in absolute good or absolute evil. And as I said, I dislike absolutes. Even in science, absolute rules are sometimes amended. I do good deeds because I feel like it’s the right thing to do, not for the promise of reward or the fear of punishment. Strangely, even though I’m undecided on the existence of “god”, I regularly look up and talk to god. I believe in its psychological importance. Looking upwards tends to improve optimism. And I am an optimist.
I dated quite a lot in my younger years. I “tried on” a lot of different types of people. I learned to get over people when they weren’t healthy. I learned that I was not the “best boyfriend you’ll ever have” as so many “nice guys” believe they are (before they date much). It’s a valuable experience to figure out you’re not offering anything literally any other person could. You learn that you need to work towards things together and give the other person what they need rather than what you like to offer. Of course there’s always a compromise.
Dating over 40 has been a mixed bag. I’m not great at making new friends or meeting people. The apps required a lot of effort for the minimal responses you get. And the pool of people in my age group was tiny.
I got married at 32 and Divorced at 38. I took the relationship seriously and cultivated the ability to cut conversations with flirtatious people short. That’s a hard habit to break. Especially since I do take the pandemic seriously and have laid low and avoided large gatherings . I made it till December of 2022 without catching Covid!
I have acclimated to things changing as I’ve aged. At first the changes bothered me (receding hairline, slower metabolism, grey hairs in my beard etc) but eventually I came to an equilibrium where I embrace and accept that we all age and change.
As such, I’m not big on plastic surgery or attempts to look younger or “fix” your physical features. I don’t think it’s good for your self esteem. And I think the longer you put off accepting aging, the harder it will be to take when the inevitable happens.
Along the way, I came to the conclusion don’t want to have kids. If you have them, that’s fine. But I’m not looking to procreate. If there was any lingering “maybe” I had, the looming threat of WW3 and a world wide pandemic murdered it.
Nothing is more attractive than confidence. I’m not saying you shouldn’t take care of yourself and always put your best foot forward but confidence is key. Believe it or not, some people like your “non standard” features. And what is the standard, really?
I have IG for photography and can’t help but notice how much everyone filters their pictures and falls prey to the “beauty standards” posted by people who do not meet those standards without heavy editing. The world is full of naturally beautiful people. And I do not see that reflected in social media. I debate deleting it daily but worry about offending the people I only connect with through it.
I am a musician of 25 years (I say that loosely). I’ve been playing guitar for quite a long time. From the moment I first plucked a string (on a broken , hand me down acoustic) I was hooked. It was like a drug. I use to just place my ear to the body and strum. Listening to the rich tone. It would give me shivers. I actually still feel that way. I feel like in some ways, music saved me. Before I found it, I was into drawing. I was quite good but it frustrated me often. Music has never really done that. You can haphazardly create beauty and if you do something wrong, it’s gone and you move on. I love all music but I tend to like things with angst and “oomph” that tend to be (but not always are) guitar driven. To put that into perspective, I love Hendrix and dislike John Mayer. Hopefully that makes sense.
I’m a decent cook. I could go on blathering about how I fell in love with it or what a huge influence Anthony Bourdain was but let’s just say I can’t be with a picky eater. Having food allergies (shellfish, peanuts) means I stare longingly and jealously at people eating the things I can’t. I want to eat adventurously but can’t. So I take great care to appreciate what I can and try what I can.
Photography… I haven’t picked up my camera in months. I actually really love photography. But sometimes you get up and go to shoot…To find the lighting during that time of day is horrible. And I’m not an early riser. So golden hour seems elusive. I love photo walks though. Casually walking and talking with a friend is great. I just don’t have anyone to do it with anymore. I like taking pictures of things rather than people. I like light and deep shadow. Sean tucker is an amazing photographer that captures what I love perfectly. I also love Harry gruyaert. I’m low key jealous of photographers who live in cities which are full of amazing architecture and color. San Diego is beautiful, but not in that way.
I play video games but don’t consider myself a gamer. Right now I’m binging on genshin impact. Before that I played (and loved) both horizon games. I generally play games that can be played with friends and tend to lose interest in anything else. Co op pve is great. PvP is not my thing.
Sports… although I’m not a sports guy, I actually am EXTREMELY into european football (soccer to us Americans). I watch every Manchester United game per season. I watch the champions league (and Europa league if Man U are in it). I dabble in all the big leagues but am most interested in the premier league. And when the World Cup comes around I really make an effort to wake up early and soak it in. There’s something beautiful about it being the worlds sport. There is no dominant race. There is no requisite body type. Short. Tall. Fast. Slow. Strong. Weak. They can ALL play the beautiful game. I love that. Generally, I root for the US first. But once they’re out I would equally root for any team that plays their hearts out.
Ok the essay is over. I think I’ve talked your ear off long enough. You got a snippet of who I am. Tell me about yourself?
I’m hoping to meet someone local or within say a 2 hr drive of San Diego but I am open to anyone who occasionally travels here. And accents are dead sexy. Especially all of the regional British ones.
If I didn’t bore your socks off, I have a ton of posts detailing my views on things. Feel free to browse. Or if you’d rather take the old fashioned approach, feel free to ask whatever you like.
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I’ve posted many times before and spoke to some interesting people but never “the one” and keeping up with the responses got a bit overwhelming.
Yes, my picture is the meme of the 40 something guy who never smiles. I assure you, I smile. Just not in selfies. If you do reply, please also send a picture. I feel it’s fair since I posted one.
I’m 41, single, no children and I live in San Diego. single since 2019. 5’10.5”, 189lbs. Ethnically ambiguous (Latino but people always think middle eastern) INFJ. Virgo. (I don’t put too much stock in that type of compatibility though).
What I am looking for in a potential partner:
I have few and very generic prerequisites. You should be a critical thinker. In the current climate of intentionally misleading headlines and generally biased news, I think being able to suss out what is real and what’s misleading is important.
I value intelligence. Like I don’t require a masters degree but I’d like to feel like the person I’m chatting with is somewhat smarter than me. I can’t 100% say I’m sapiosexual because I do want to be with someone I find attractive, but I’m most attracted to Intelligent people.
I really like people who generally laugh first before getting upset. People who can make a morbid joke in a bad (but not life threatening) situation. Like if you’re on a road trip to Vegas and get a flat tire. You could get really upset… or you could say “welllll I guess we’re going to be late picking up the hookers”.
In terms of introversion vs extroversion I don’t really have a preference. I get along with both. I’m an introvert who is always happy to go just about anywhere as long as you are the one dealing with the traffic and parking :)
I am generally never really bored. If I’m not pondering the nature of existence or having some sort of internal debate, I’m watching science documentaries or on Wikipedia or YouTube falling down a rabbit hole. I know a little bit about a lot of things and have an absurd amount of random but not quite useless information floating around in my head. I love deep talks. But I also love some good old fashioned low brow humor. Except dad jokes. I just can’t get into them.
I’m not religious. You could say I’m spiritual but not in a theological way. I don’t care if god exists and doubt god wound care what my thoughts were. I can’t really say I’m an atheist. I dislike extremes and absolutes. My motto is generally “I could be wrong” and it’s served me well in my times of existential crisis (which have become fewer as I’ve gotten older). I take comfort in my belief that there is no beginning or end. Time is a man made construct and nothing ever really ceases to be, it just changes. I don’t believe I will simply “stop existing” when I die. I don’t believe in heaven or hell. I think those concepts are tied to a superstitious belief in absolute good or absolute evil. And as I said, I dislike absolutes. Even in science, absolute rules are sometimes amended. I do good deeds because I feel like it’s the right thing to do, not for the promise of reward or the fear of punishment. Strangely, even though I’m undecided on the existence of “god”, I regularly look up and talk to god. I believe in its psychological importance. Looking upwards tends to improve optimism. And I am an optimist.
I dated quite a lot in my younger years. I “tried on” a lot of different types of people. I learned to get over people when they weren’t healthy. I learned that I was not the “best boyfriend you’ll ever have” as so many “nice guys” believe they are (before they date much). It’s a valuable experience to figure out you’re not offering anything literally any other person could. You learn that you need to work towards things together and give the other person what they need rather than what you like to offer. Of course there’s always a compromise.
Dating over 40 has been a mixed bag. I’m not great at making new friends or meeting people. The apps required a lot of effort for the minimal responses you get. And the pool of people in my age group was tiny.
I got married at 32 and Divorced at 38. I took the relationship seriously and cultivated the ability to cut conversations with flirtatious people short. That’s a hard habit to break. Especially since I do take the pandemic seriously and have laid low and avoided large gatherings . I made it till December of 2022 without catching Covid!
I have acclimated to things changing as I’ve aged. At first the changes bothered me (receding hairline, slower metabolism, grey hairs in my beard etc) but eventually I came to an equilibrium where I embrace and accept that we all age and change.
As such, I’m not big on plastic surgery or attempts to look younger or “fix” your physical features. I don’t think it’s good for your self esteem. And I think the longer you put off accepting aging, the harder it will be to take when the inevitable happens.
Along the way, I came to the conclusion don’t want to have kids. If you have them, that’s fine. But I’m not looking to procreate. If there was any lingering “maybe” I had, the looming threat of WW3 and a world wide pandemic murdered it.
Nothing is more attractive than confidence. I’m not saying you shouldn’t take care of yourself and always put your best foot forward but confidence is key. Believe it or not, some people like your “non standard” features. And what is the standard, really?
I have IG for photography and can’t help but notice how much everyone filters their pictures and falls prey to the “beauty standards” posted by people who do not meet those standards without heavy editing. The world is full of naturally beautiful people. And I do not see that reflected in social media. I debate deleting it daily but worry about offending the people I only connect with through it.
I am a musician of 25 years (I say that loosely). I’ve been playing guitar for quite a long time. From the moment I first plucked a string (on a broken , hand me down acoustic) I was hooked. It was like a drug. I use to just place my ear to the body and strum. Listening to the rich tone. It would give me shivers. I actually still feel that way. I feel like in some ways, music saved me. Before I found it, I was into drawing. I was quite good but it frustrated me often. Music has never really done that. You can haphazardly create beauty and if you do something wrong, it’s gone and you move on. I love all music but I tend to like things with angst and “oomph” that tend to be (but not always are) guitar driven. To put that into perspective, I love Hendrix and dislike John Mayer. Hopefully that makes sense.
I’m a decent cook. I could go on blathering about how I fell in love with it or what a huge influence Anthony Bourdain was but let’s just say I can’t be with a picky eater. Having food allergies (shellfish, peanuts) means I stare longingly and jealously at people eating the things I can’t. I want to eat adventurously but can’t. So I take great care to appreciate what I can and try what I can.
Photography… I haven’t picked up my camera in months. I actually really love photography. But sometimes you get up and go to shoot…To find the lighting during that time of day is horrible. And I’m not an early riser. So golden hour seems elusive. I love photo walks though. Casually walking and talking with a friend is great. I just don’t have anyone to do it with anymore. I like taking pictures of things rather than people. I like light and deep shadow. Sean tucker is an amazing photographer that captures what I love perfectly. I also love Harry gruyaert. I’m low key jealous of photographers who live in cities which are full of amazing architecture and color. San Diego is beautiful, but not in that way.
I play video games but don’t consider myself a gamer. Right now I’m binging on genshin impact. Before that I played (and loved) both horizon games. I generally play games that can be played with friends and tend to lose interest in anything else. Co op pve is great. PvP is not my thing.
Sports… although I’m not a sports guy, I actually am EXTREMELY into european football (soccer to us Americans). I watch every Manchester United game per season. I watch the champions league (and Europa league if Man U are in it). I dabble in all the big leagues but am most interested in the premier league. And when the World Cup comes around I really make an effort to wake up early and soak it in. There’s something beautiful about it being the worlds sport. There is no dominant race. There is no requisite body type. Short. Tall. Fast. Slow. Strong. Weak. They can ALL play the beautiful game. I love that. Generally, I root for the US first. But once they’re out I would equally root for any team that plays their hearts out.
Ok the essay is over. I think I’ve talked your ear off long enough. You got a snippet of who I am. Tell me about yourself?
I’m hoping to meet someone local or within say a 2 hr drive of San Diego but I am open to anyone who occasionally travels here. And accents are dead sexy. Especially all of the regional British ones.
If I didn’t bore your socks off, I have a ton of posts detailing my views on things. Feel free to browse. Or if you’d rather take the old fashioned approach, feel free to ask whatever you like.
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me

I’ve posted many times before and spoke to some interesting people but never “the one” and keeping up with the responses got a bit overwhelming.
Yes, my picture is the meme of the 40 something guy who never smiles. I assure you, I smile. Just not in selfies. If you do reply, please also send a picture. I feel it’s fair since I posted one.
I’m 41, single, no children and I live in San Diego. single since 2019. 5’10.5”, 189lbs. Ethnically ambiguous (Latino but people always think middle eastern) INFJ. Virgo. (I don’t put too much stock in that type of compatibility though).
What I am looking for in a potential partner:
I have few and very generic prerequisites. You should be a critical thinker. In the current climate of intentionally misleading headlines and generally biased news, I think being able to suss out what is real and what’s misleading is important.
I value intelligence. Like I don’t require a masters degree but I’d like to feel like the person I’m chatting with is somewhat smarter than me. I can’t 100% say I’m sapiosexual because I do want to be with someone I find attractive, but I’m most attracted to Intelligent people.
I really like people who generally laugh first before getting upset. People who can make a morbid joke in a bad (but not life threatening) situation. Like if you’re on a road trip to Vegas and get a flat tire. You could get really upset… or you could say “welllll I guess we’re going to be late picking up the hookers”.
In terms of introversion vs extroversion I don’t really have a preference. I get along with both. I’m an introvert who is always happy to go just about anywhere as long as you are the one dealing with the traffic and parking :)
I am generally never really bored. If I’m not pondering the nature of existence or having some sort of internal debate, I’m watching science documentaries or on Wikipedia or YouTube falling down a rabbit hole. I know a little bit about a lot of things and have an absurd amount of random but not quite useless information floating around in my head. I love deep talks. But I also love some good old fashioned low brow humor. Except dad jokes. I just can’t get into them.
I’m not religious. You could say I’m spiritual but not in a theological way. I don’t care if god exists and doubt god wound care what my thoughts were. I can’t really say I’m an atheist. I dislike extremes and absolutes. My motto is generally “I could be wrong” and it’s served me well in my times of existential crisis (which have become fewer as I’ve gotten older). I take comfort in my belief that there is no beginning or end. Time is a man made construct and nothing ever really ceases to be, it just changes. I don’t believe I will simply “stop existing” when I die. I don’t believe in heaven or hell. I think those concepts are tied to a superstitious belief in absolute good or absolute evil. And as I said, I dislike absolutes. Even in science, absolute rules are sometimes amended. I do good deeds because I feel like it’s the right thing to do, not for the promise of reward or the fear of punishment. Strangely, even though I’m undecided on the existence of “god”, I regularly look up and talk to god. I believe in its psychological importance. Looking upwards tends to improve optimism. And I am an optimist.
I dated quite a lot in my younger years. I “tried on” a lot of different types of people. I learned to get over people when they weren’t healthy. I learned that I was not the “best boyfriend you’ll ever have” as so many “nice guys” believe they are (before they date much). It’s a valuable experience to figure out you’re not offering anything literally any other person could. You learn that you need to work towards things together and give the other person what they need rather than what you like to offer. Of course there’s always a compromise.
Dating over 40 has been a mixed bag. I’m not great at making new friends or meeting people. The apps required a lot of effort for the minimal responses you get. And the pool of people in my age group was tiny.
I got married at 32 and Divorced at 38. I took the relationship seriously and cultivated the ability to cut conversations with flirtatious people short. That’s a hard habit to break. Especially since I do take the pandemic seriously and have laid low and avoided large gatherings . I made it till December of 2022 without catching Covid!
I have acclimated to things changing as I’ve aged. At first the changes bothered me (receding hairline, slower metabolism, grey hairs in my beard etc) but eventually I came to an equilibrium where I embrace and accept that we all age and change.
As such, I’m not big on plastic surgery or attempts to look younger or “fix” your physical features. I don’t think it’s good for your self esteem. And I think the longer you put off accepting aging, the harder it will be to take when the inevitable happens.
Along the way, I came to the conclusion don’t want to have kids. If you have them, that’s fine. But I’m not looking to procreate. If there was any lingering “maybe” I had, the looming threat of WW3 and a world wide pandemic murdered it.
Nothing is more attractive than confidence. I’m not saying you shouldn’t take care of yourself and always put your best foot forward but confidence is key. Believe it or not, some people like your “non standard” features. And what is the standard, really?
I have IG for photography and can’t help but notice how much everyone filters their pictures and falls prey to the “beauty standards” posted by people who do not meet those standards without heavy editing. The world is full of naturally beautiful people. And I do not see that reflected in social media. I debate deleting it daily but worry about offending the people I only connect with through it.
I am a musician of 25 years (I say that loosely). I’ve been playing guitar for quite a long time. From the moment I first plucked a string (on a broken , hand me down acoustic) I was hooked. It was like a drug. I use to just place my ear to the body and strum. Listening to the rich tone. It would give me shivers. I actually still feel that way. I feel like in some ways, music saved me. Before I found it, I was into drawing. I was quite good but it frustrated me often. Music has never really done that. You can haphazardly create beauty and if you do something wrong, it’s gone and you move on. I love all music but I tend to like things with angst and “oomph” that tend to be (but not always are) guitar driven. To put that into perspective, I love Hendrix and dislike John Mayer. Hopefully that makes sense.
I’m a decent cook. I could go on blathering about how I fell in love with it or what a huge influence Anthony Bourdain was but let’s just say I can’t be with a picky eater. Having food allergies (shellfish, peanuts) means I stare longingly and jealously at people eating the things I can’t. I want to eat adventurously but can’t. So I take great care to appreciate what I can and try what I can.
Photography… I haven’t picked up my camera in months. I actually really love photography. But sometimes you get up and go to shoot…To find the lighting during that time of day is horrible. And I’m not an early riser. So golden hour seems elusive. I love photo walks though. Casually walking and talking with a friend is great. I just don’t have anyone to do it with anymore. I like taking pictures of things rather than people. I like light and deep shadow. Sean tucker is an amazing photographer that captures what I love perfectly. I also love Harry gruyaert. I’m low key jealous of photographers who live in cities which are full of amazing architecture and color. San Diego is beautiful, but not in that way.
I play video games but don’t consider myself a gamer. Right now I’m binging on genshin impact. Before that I played (and loved) both horizon games. I generally play games that can be played with friends and tend to lose interest in anything else. Co op pve is great. PvP is not my thing.
Sports… although I’m not a sports guy, I actually am EXTREMELY into european football (soccer to us Americans). I watch every Manchester United game per season. I watch the champions league (and Europa league if Man U are in it). I dabble in all the big leagues but am most interested in the premier league. And when the World Cup comes around I really make an effort to wake up early and soak it in. There’s something beautiful about it being the worlds sport. There is no dominant race. There is no requisite body type. Short. Tall. Fast. Slow. Strong. Weak. They can ALL play the beautiful game. I love that. Generally, I root for the US first. But once they’re out I would equally root for any team that plays their hearts out.
Ok the essay is over. I think I’ve talked your ear off long enough. You got a snippet of who I am. Tell me about yourself?
I’m hoping to meet someone local or within say a 2 hr drive of San Diego but I am open to anyone who occasionally travels here. And accents are dead sexy. Especially all of the regional British ones.
If I didn’t bore your socks off, I have a ton of posts detailing my views on things. Feel free to browse. Or if you’d rather take the old fashioned approach, feel free to ask whatever you like.
​
me

I’ve posted many times before and spoke to some interesting people but never “the one” and keeping up with the responses got a bit overwhelming.
Yes, my picture is the meme of the 40 something guy who never smiles. I assure you, I smile. Just not in selfies. If you do reply, please also send a picture. I feel it’s fair since I posted one.
I’m 41, single, no children and I live in San Diego. single since 2019. 5’10.5”, 189lbs. Ethnically ambiguous (Latino but people always think middle eastern) INFJ. Virgo. (I don’t put too much stock in that type of compatibility though).
What I am looking for in a potential partner:
I have few and very generic prerequisites. You should be a critical thinker. In the current climate of intentionally misleading headlines and generally biased news, I think being able to suss out what is real and what’s misleading is important.
I value intelligence. Like I don’t require a masters degree but I’d like to feel like the person I’m chatting with is somewhat smarter than me. I can’t 100% say I’m sapiosexual because I do want to be with someone I find attractive, but I’m most attracted to Intelligent people.
I really like people who generally laugh first before getting upset. People who can make a morbid joke in a bad (but not life threatening) situation. Like if you’re on a road trip to Vegas and get a flat tire. You could get really upset… or you could say “welllll I guess we’re going to be late picking up the hookers”.
In terms of introversion vs extroversion I don’t really have a preference. I get along with both. I’m an introvert who is always happy to go just about anywhere as long as you are the one dealing with the traffic and parking :)
I am generally never really bored. If I’m not pondering the nature of existence or having some sort of internal debate, I’m watching science documentaries or on Wikipedia or YouTube falling down a rabbit hole. I know a little bit about a lot of things and have an absurd amount of random but not quite useless information floating around in my head. I love deep talks. But I also love some good old fashioned low brow humor. Except dad jokes. I just can’t get into them.
I’m not religious. You could say I’m spiritual but not in a theological way. I don’t care if god exists and doubt god wound care what my thoughts were. I can’t really say I’m an atheist. I dislike extremes and absolutes. My motto is generally “I could be wrong” and it’s served me well in my times of existential crisis (which have become fewer as I’ve gotten older). I take comfort in my belief that there is no beginning or end. Time is a man made construct and nothing ever really ceases to be, it just changes. I don’t believe I will simply “stop existing” when I die. I don’t believe in heaven or hell. I think those concepts are tied to a superstitious belief in absolute good or absolute evil. And as I said, I dislike absolutes. Even in science, absolute rules are sometimes amended. I do good deeds because I feel like it’s the right thing to do, not for the promise of reward or the fear of punishment. Strangely, even though I’m undecided on the existence of “god”, I regularly look up and talk to god. I believe in its psychological importance. Looking upwards tends to improve optimism. And I am an optimist.
I dated quite a lot in my younger years. I “tried on” a lot of different types of people. I learned to get over people when they weren’t healthy. I learned that I was not the “best boyfriend you’ll ever have” as so many “nice guys” believe they are (before they date much). It’s a valuable experience to figure out you’re not offering anything literally any other person could. You learn that you need to work towards things together and give the other person what they need rather than what you like to offer. Of course there’s always a compromise.
Dating over 40 has been a mixed bag. I’m not great at making new friends or meeting people. The apps required a lot of effort for the minimal responses you get. And the pool of people in my age group was tiny.
I got married at 32 and Divorced at 38. I took the relationship seriously and cultivated the ability to cut conversations with flirtatious people short. That’s a hard habit to break. Especially since I do take the pandemic seriously and have laid low and avoided large gatherings . I made it till December of 2022 without catching Covid!
I have acclimated to things changing as I’ve aged. At first the changes bothered me (receding hairline, slower metabolism, grey hairs in my beard etc) but eventually I came to an equilibrium where I embrace and accept that we all age and change.
As such, I’m not big on plastic surgery or attempts to look younger or “fix” your physical features. I don’t think it’s good for your self esteem. And I think the longer you put off accepting aging, the harder it will be to take when the inevitable happens.
Along the way, I came to the conclusion don’t want to have kids. If you have them, that’s fine. But I’m not looking to procreate. If there was any lingering “maybe” I had, the looming threat of WW3 and a world wide pandemic murdered it.
Nothing is more attractive than confidence. I’m not saying you shouldn’t take care of yourself and always put your best foot forward but confidence is key. Believe it or not, some people like your “non standard” features. And what is the standard, really?
I have IG for photography and can’t help but notice how much everyone filters their pictures and falls prey to the “beauty standards” posted by people who do not meet those standards without heavy editing. The world is full of naturally beautiful people. And I do not see that reflected in social media. I debate deleting it daily but worry about offending the people I only connect with through it.
I am a musician of 25 years (I say that loosely). I’ve been playing guitar for quite a long time. From the moment I first plucked a string (on a broken , hand me down acoustic) I was hooked. It was like a drug. I use to just place my ear to the body and strum. Listening to the rich tone. It would give me shivers. I actually still feel that way. I feel like in some ways, music saved me. Before I found it, I was into drawing. I was quite good but it frustrated me often. Music has never really done that. You can haphazardly create beauty and if you do something wrong, it’s gone and you move on. I love all music but I tend to like things with angst and “oomph” that tend to be (but not always are) guitar driven. To put that into perspective, I love Hendrix and dislike John Mayer. Hopefully that makes sense.
I’m a decent cook. I could go on blathering about how I fell in love with it or what a huge influence Anthony Bourdain was but let’s just say I can’t be with a picky eater. Having food allergies (shellfish, peanuts) means I stare longingly and jealously at people eating the things I can’t. I want to eat adventurously but can’t. So I take great care to appreciate what I can and try what I can.
Photography… I haven’t picked up my camera in months. I actually really love photography. But sometimes you get up and go to shoot…To find the lighting during that time of day is horrible. And I’m not an early riser. So golden hour seems elusive. I love photo walks though. Casually walking and talking with a friend is great. I just don’t have anyone to do it with anymore. I like taking pictures of things rather than people. I like light and deep shadow. Sean tucker is an amazing photographer that captures what I love perfectly. I also love Harry gruyaert. I’m low key jealous of photographers who live in cities which are full of amazing architecture and color. San Diego is beautiful, but not in that way.
I play video games but don’t consider myself a gamer. Right now I’m binging on genshin impact. Before that I played (and loved) both horizon games. I generally play games that can be played with friends and tend to lose interest in anything else. Co op pve is great. PvP is not my thing.
Sports… although I’m not a sports guy, I actually am EXTREMELY into european football (soccer to us Americans). I watch every Manchester United game per season. I watch the champions league (and Europa league if Man U are in it). I dabble in all the big leagues but am most interested in the premier league. And when the World Cup comes around I really make an effort to wake up early and soak it in. There’s something beautiful about it being the worlds sport. There is no dominant race. There is no requisite body type. Short. Tall. Fast. Slow. Strong. Weak. They can ALL play the beautiful game. I love that. Generally, I root for the US first. But once they’re out I would equally root for any team that plays their hearts out.
Ok the essay is over. I think I’ve talked your ear off long enough. You got a snippet of who I am. Tell me about yourself?
I’m hoping to meet someone local or within say a 2 hr drive of San Diego but I am open to anyone who occasionally travels here. And accents are dead sexy. Especially all of the regional British ones.
If I didn’t bore your socks off, I have a ton of posts detailing my views on things. Feel free to browse. Or if you’d rather take the old fashioned approach, feel free to ask whatever you like.
​
me

Just wondering if anyone has ideas how to go about this. I’d like to create an automation that closes my blinds when the sun is heating up my house, but leaves them open when its just light but not getting hot.
I don’t know the best way to do this, but had some ideas:

• Close blinds when sun is between X and Y angle, and just figure out what the angles are for direct light on each window
  
• Some kind of sunlight sensor placed on each window sill, but I don’t know if they’d be able to distinguish when its just regular sunny vs that kind of sun that turns the house into an oven
  

Or the easiest one,

• Just close the blinds whenever the thermostat reads warmer than 22C and the sun is up…which tbh is probably good enough, but it’d be nice to only close the blinds that are letting the heat in and leave the others open

Any other ideas? Has anyone found the perfect system for this? I have AC but the house is so old and leaky it can’t keep up if the sun is beaming through my giant living room window.