I’m having some weird problems with my WiFi connection.
It looks like the 5ghz band has extreme latency (up to 350ms) But using the 2.4ghz band is not possible cause the connection gets dropped every few second, and therefore it’s unusable.
Using an Ethernet cable is not possible unfortunately, cause the layout of the house does not allow it. Is there any way to reduce latency on the 5ghz band or stop the 2.4ghz band from drooping the connection?
I’m using an Intel Dual Band Wireless-AC 3168 with a fiber optic 100mbps connection.
Also, my phone seemed to have no latency issues.

Trying my best not to stress - I’m 34+5 (29y). I’ve had a mass in my dense breast for like 8 years. I say that because the other one the tissue isn’t dense at all; boobs are fun lol. I’ve had it looked at via ultrasound and mammogram in the past but was only ever told because of the density that they couldn’t tell what it was. I’ve also been through a few OBs who have all told me it doesn’t feel like anything to worry about. Thing is, it wasn’t ever really super obvious from the surface but I could always “grab” said mass by hooking my fingers around it. I was in a nice way told I was just doing too much and if I couldn’t feel it from pressing two fingers on the surface that it’s probably nothing. It’s hard, does cause pain sometimes and definitely irregular. Well, with pregnancy boob swelling, it’s gotten bigger and is now palpable from the surface. My OB sent me for an ultrasound yesterday - ultrasound tech pulled the radiologist in to look at it as well which I didn’t think was a great sign and she was asking where I’d had it seen before and when was the scan done previously. The vibe I got was “why wasn’t this already biopsied” which made me nervous. She ordered a biopsy - I’m waiting for the appointment and just trying not to panic. Like an idiot I went online last night to try to find images of benign irregular breast masses to calm myself and be like “oh okay, mine looks like that”. Of course mine looks a lot more like the big C masses so now fighting the panic is hard. BC doesn’t run in my family which I keep trying to hold onto. I don’t know if I’m looking for advice or just needed to get it off my chest (pun absolutely intended). Anybody have irregular masses that turned out to be nothing? Trying to convince myself that I don’t need to worry unless there’s a reason to worry but the unknown is hard. Keeping out intrusive thoughts is the hardest - I keep going back to thinking about my husband having to raise our daughter on his own and it’s destroying me. :(

First off, I am absolutely enjoying this series. Mainly from the time-frame, early 1930's (1932 to be exact). The wardrobe for both men and women, the sets are amazing with interior and exterior of the period architecture. Attention to detail is so good(!!) although there are some exceptions, but I'm not going there with this post.
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Has anyone else noticed the many references to food, beginning with S2 E1 (Chp 9, I believe). Examples are:

• Perry get his milk delivered (Perry drinks milk??)
• Coffee given to Perry from new secretary Marion
• Trial of two competing grocers
• McCutcheon Family Soup Kitchen scene
• Lunch where Della and Anita St. Pierre meet (Della's client is talking about volute springs)
• Paul Drake birthday party with cake
• The I6 Cafe (Perry's old house.....on Perry's old farm)

S2 E2

• Scene where Grocer getting cantaloupes from Goldsteins
• Pete Strickland is eating lunch in an alley when he meets Drake
• Line from the script: 'Milligan don't eat meat, just fruit and vegs'
• Goldstein has papers served
• Drake comes home bringing in groceries
• Goldstein is murdered by a melon press (hell I don't know why a food distributor would need a press like that? haha) resulting in the burning of the McCutcheon subpoena

I'm going to stop and grab something to eat. There are SO MANY references to food so far, its littered like crumbs throughout E3 and E4 as well. Yea, I'm in a rabbit hole and I need to stop digging.

I’m having some weird problems with my WiFi connection.
It looks like the 5ghz band has extreme latency (up to 350ms) But using the 2.4ghz band is not possible cause the connection gets dropped every few second, and therefore it’s unusable.
Using an Ethernet cable is not possible unfortunately, cause the layout of the house does not allow it. Is there any way to reduce latency on the 5ghz band or stop the 2.4ghz band from drooping the connection?
I’m using an Intel Dual Band Wireless-AC 3168 with a fiber optic 100mbps connection.
Also, my phone seemed to have no latency issues.

29 years old and my body feels 120
29/F 5”1’ 140lbs no true medical diagnosis besides a stable hemangioma found in my brain stem during a case of viral meningitis. history of back pain since teens (never taken seriously and told I’m too young and healthy for it to be anything) I’ve since put off doctors because I felt if I wasn’t ever listened to I may as well learn to deal with it. In the last 2ish years it’s gotten worse. I’m now having whole spine pain along with large joints pain. Daily I wake up stiff and sore all over, it takes me 30 minutes to and hour to feel like I can move properly. I clean houses for work and I typically feel okay throughout the day and get a lot accomplished. I’m pretty active, have 3 kids that all play sports, we don’t live a sedentary lifestyle by any means. By evening time I feel like a truck has ran me over multiple times.
Main Symptoms:
Cervical spine pain, headaches from base of right side that shoots up head, when I tuck chin to chest there’s a shooting/pulling sensation in the middle of my back. Tingly into both shoulders and sometimes down into right forearm. When I’m doing any activity that requires arms above chest level my arms feel very tired, kind of ‘buzz’ feeling and feel heavy.
Mid back pain, kind of burning sensation right on spine area. Lower middle back locks up after sitting or resting, when I stand it feels like my back won’t straighten and it takes me a second to slowly get to straight position.
Lower back aches, worse if wearing tighter leggings or jeans..
Hips hurt and feels like they did when I was pregnant, sometimes feel like my hip isn’t moving properly when walking, like it just needs popped or something. Pain radiates down sides of butt and outer thighs.
Knees ache and feel swollen (aren’t visually)
Calves always feel tight or like muscles are pulled, tried massage with no relief.
Ankles feel same as knees
I have trouble sleeping every night because of the pain in each of these areas. I’m constantly tossing and turning trying to find a comfortable position with no success. My legs tingle and feel like I have bugs crawling inside of them at night (I was given medicine for restless legs at one point that didn’t help)
I had a doctors appointment today, she’s doing X-rays from my neck to my hips and blood work (thyroid, ANA, RF, crp and vitamins b12, D) and starting me at physical therapy (due to insurance) before an mri. I guess I’m just here looking for people with similar symptoms and ask what has helped, what was your diagnosis? I just want to feel good again.

I’m having some weird problems with my WiFi connection.
It looks like the 5ghz band has extreme latency (up to 350ms) But using the 2.4ghz band is not possible cause the connection gets dropped every few second, and therefore it’s unusable.
Using an Ethernet cable is not possible unfortunately, cause the layout of the house does not allow it. Is there any way to reduce latency on the 5ghz band or stop the 2.4ghz band from drooping the connection?
I’m using an Intel Dual Band Wireless-AC 3168 with a fiber optic 100mbps connection.
Also, my phone seemed to have no latency issues.

I'm about to go see my family for 3 weeks and nobody will be home to take care of Meatball. We have had short holidays lasting about 3 days before and have had a cat sitter come in twice daily during the time we've been away, but never anything this long.
My cat is 4 and is very healthy (no meds etc.). Due to work hours I'm away for 10-12 hours a day. He's shy but generally quite friendly and I keep him indoors at all times.
Options are:

1. there is a nearby cattery that is well reviewed and appears to be run by sensible people. He'll be fed and looked at regularly. However I am concerned that he won't have as much space as my 2 bedroom 2 story house, and it'll be unfamiliar to boot.
2. my usual sitter is available for 2 weeks and visits twice a day. With the help of another sitter can cover the full duration. Meatball will be in a familiar environment, but will be pretty lonely, as the sitter doesn't stay for long. this is also a more expensive option.

What do you think would be best for my cat? thanks.

A long rant ahead :)
This is the longest I have ever gone without a drink (other than pregnancy) since I was 17 years old. I will be 36 in June.
I've realized I have no adult experiences that were without alcohol. My friend invited me out for an evening, and I declined because going "out" without alcohol involved is completely foreign to me. Wtf is the point?
I can go to lunch with my very supportive husband, sit at the bartop (you really usually get the best service 🤷🏼‍♀️), and be legit happy ordering a Dr. Pepper.
Evening time outing? Hell no. Not YET.
That's something I'm working with my therapist on, is the not YET part. I don't know how to have fun playing a card game after the offspring has gone to bed without a drink- YET.
I was really upset on day 40 because it was a beautiful day, and all I wanted was a sunshine patio beer. I'm trying to relearn that happiness of sunshine beer with an NA beer or sparkling something. I'm not there. YET.
Retraining my brain after almost two decades of addiction is fucking painful. I'm tearing up typing this because... it just fucking sucks. I hate this. I'm mad at myself for being an addict. I'm proud I can admit I'm an addict, finally, and do something about it. And, I'm also disheartened because admitting it, instead of hiding it for years, means I HAVE to do something about it. There's a part of me that wishes I wouldn't have.
That part of me also realizes not admitting it would have likely meant the end of my marriage, likely losing my child, and generally just becoming a bigger piece of shit.
I really don't like being sober. Not YET. Actually, my therapist made an interesting distinction between clean and sober. I'm clean from alcohol right now. I'm not sober- not YET.
I'm probably going to give myself the diabeetus from all the sugar I eat. But I guess it's not alcohol, right?
We have a dream 10 year wedding anniversary trip to an all-inclusive resort in Jamaica booked. All I can think about the trip is whether or not I'll drink. And I'm mad about that. My why to not drink then isn't strong, not YET.
Just ranting, getting some thoughts out.
IWNDWYT 💕

Trying my best not to stress - I’m 34+5 (29y). I’ve had a mass in my dense breast for like 8 years. I say that because the other one the tissue isn’t dense at all; boobs are fun lol. I’ve had it looked at via ultrasound and mammogram in the past but was only ever told because of the density that they couldn’t tell what it was. I’ve also been through a few OBs who have all told me it doesn’t feel like anything to worry about. Thing is, it wasn’t ever really super obvious from the surface but I could always “grab” said mass by hooking my fingers around it. I was in a nice way told I was just doing too much and if I couldn’t feel it from pressing two fingers on the surface that it’s probably nothing. It’s hard, does cause pain sometimes and definitely irregular. Well, with pregnancy boob swelling, it’s gotten bigger and is now palpable from the surface. My OB sent me for an ultrasound yesterday - ultrasound tech pulled the radiologist in to look at it as well which I didn’t think was a great sign and she was asking where I’d had it seen before and when was the scan done previously. The vibe I got was “why wasn’t this already biopsied” which made me nervous. She ordered a biopsy - I’m waiting for the appointment and just trying not to panic. Like an idiot I went online last night to try to find images of benign irregular breast masses to calm myself and be like “oh okay, mine looks like that”. Of course mine looks a lot more like the big C masses so now fighting the panic is hard. BC doesn’t run in my family which I keep trying to hold onto. I don’t know if I’m looking for advice or just needed to get it off my chest (pun absolutely intended). Anybody have irregular masses that turned out to be nothing? Trying to convince myself that I don’t need to worry unless there’s a reason to worry but the unknown is hard. Keeping out intrusive thoughts is the hardest - I keep going back to thinking about my husband having to raise our daughter on his own and it’s destroying me. :(

I want to buy an addition by investment, but there is also the option of renting out housing. What's better?

Hi, thanks so much for any help!
I am in England and currently in reciept of legacy ESA income related, in the support group and get the severe disability premium, as well as PIP and housing benefit.
I am looking into moving into self-employment as I have offer of relatively long term project that can be arranged around my disability/fluctuating health and ability. I am really hopeful that this could be a good start for me to build up and return to work (even if I can only ever work part-time with my health I would love the chance to leave benefits behind) but I have been reliant on benefits for about 8 years and could do some advice about the transition so I don't fuck myself over, or get fucked over by not knowing what the rules are and whats available etc.
The new role will be paid at 200 per day so will be above permitted work allowance and I will need to come off ESA I believe.
When I work will be very much dictated by my health so I don't know for sure how much I'll be working but I imagine it will be an average of 2 days a week, probably with periods where I am able to do 3 days a week and some weeks where I can't work at all.
I understand that UC can offer you a 12 month start up period for a new business where they wont hassle you to look for work? I think this could be really good for me for those months when I am not well enough to work as much as others. Will I be eligible for this? And will that work how I imagine, that on months where I have no or little income I will recieve the UC payment?
Is there anything else I should look into? Or am eligible for? Is there anything I should say to the ESA line to help with this transition?
I am worred that they will put pressure on me that might tip my health over the edge. I have to really manage my stress to stop flare ups so I do feel like I am walking a tightrope and I want to feel as planned and in control as I can with this to give myself the best chance of success.
Thanks for all and any advice or thoughts you can offer!

Felt a bit sacrilegious playing around with a Boards of Canada track, but it was super fun! Check it out if you fancy a listen :)) https://soundcloud.com/feredaysid/fereday-biggest-normal-letter?si=198c0ed477104a8da72826bb42427088&utm_source=clipboard&utm_medium=text&utm_campaign=social_sharing

I am creating little programmes for each semi-final (& then the final) to print off for guests to viewing parties that I am hosting and I'm trying to find fun facts about each nation, (or the artist, or song) that I can add in.
I've done some searching online, but some of the little comments that I've seen on posts in here have been way better, and much more interesting, (bear in mind I'm being lazy and searching only in English) so I thought I'd straight up ask you all, who are far more knowledgeable, and can search in other languages too.
Could you tell me your favourite fun fact about your country in Eurovision, please?
There will be kids in attendance so family friendly for preference.
Thank you all in advance!

Partner and I are visiting Naples and Marco Island! We have nature activities planned, but I’d like to visit some clothing stores. I’m not a fan of designer stores or “mall chain” stores. Are there any women’s boutiques, especially in pretty areas, that I should visit?
For reference, I like clothes from Free People and South Moon Under. Price range about the same. Looking for fun, preppy, beachy, or boho clothes you can’t really find up north. I did look online but only saw designer stores. Thanks!

The beginning:

1. Me, before the relationship with the BPD demon. Super confident, successful, funny, positive, present and at peace at all times. My business was booming, my routines were amazing, body, mind, social life. All on point. Had 0 issues making friends or meeting girls. A social motherfucker. No mental issues or baggage. Enter her.

Chaos Arc :
I met her at the gym. A day I will forever regret. She left me her number. We went out. You've experienced this before. Everything is going amazing, you're mesmerized by how similar she is to you. How she makes you feel, how she does everything for you. Yes, the love-bombing. She put me on such a high pedestal, I could do no wrong in her eyes. I was treated like a god. Like I've invented the universe. For a moment I thought, this must be what real love is like. Despite me being a guy with plenty of experience with girls, I fell for it. Slowly I dropped the other girls I was seeing and committed to her. It all went amazing for a year or so. The fun, the vibes, the affection. My boundaries were solid, and when she tried crossing them over I pulled back. She'd constantly say how happy she is and I'm the best thing that happened to her. Joy.
Then one day out of nowhere, she says I'm not making her happy, that I'm horrible and she wants to break-up. This is where the tables turned. We stayed together, but I wish we didn't. I genuinely believed I am not doing enough and need to do better. So I started giving in more and more. The chaos grew and grew. The blaming, the irrational accusations, the yelling, the splitting, the treats to breakup over anything minor, the instability, the gaslighting, the projections, the anger, the mean words, the loving you one moment and hating you the next. Not knowing whether a phone call would be lovey-dovey or her mentally screaming for 30min over something minor. Me being the reason behind all bad in her life. My life was constant chaos. I was never good enough. I was made to believe I'm the biggest villain in the universe, and she's a poor little victim. I bought into it. After all if she's crying and in pain saying I caused it, it must be true right?
Slippery slope:
My mental health was going downhill. The anxiety. The panic attacks. The pain. I got to a point where the brain fog was so bad I couldn't form a sentence. The worse my mental health got, the weaker I was, and was trying to please her more and more, still believing I'm at fault for everything. She made me believe it after all. She would cry and scream how I treat her badly, not give her enough attention, not being affectionate enough. Nothing was ever enough. The more I tried, the worse it got. I was the root of all her pain somehow. I was a ruin of the man I once was.
Then she started disrespecting me even more. Pushed my limits more and more. Yelling in public. Starting arguments and screaming for hours like a 5 year old kid. Saying I'm not man enough. Tantrums over anything. How she feels like the man in the relationship. Hiding her phone. Going out every weekend with her friends partying. I wanted it to end so badly, but I couldn't do it myself.
The discard:
5 months ago she discarded me. After 3 years together. She blamed it all on me, said I'm the worst person ever and how I constantly hurt her and treated her like shit. Played games on the phone for a month or so after the breakup. Taunting me and making fun of me. Said I will never find better than her. I still blamed myself for everything. Found out she moved on with a new guy 2 weeks after we broke-up. Said he treats her better than I ever could. Destroyed me even more.
Great, here I am thinking: I lost the best girl that I ever could ever have, and now she's happy with some other guy who treats her better. I'm such a horrible person.
The Rebirth?:
Then, I slowly got a bit rational thinking back. Finding this subreddit was on of the big ones. Every story resonated with me. Realized how fucked up it all was, and how I almost did nothing to deserve it.
I hoped after the breakup that I'll recover quickly and be back to my old self.
But, it only got worse after the breakup. It's like I've internalized the things she was saying about me.
I've tried everything, and I'm still in this haze, fog and unreality. I have no idea who I am anymore. There is just pain, emptiness and anxiety. Hard to sleep. Impossible to be present or enjoy anything. I can't hold a 10 second conversation. Mind is blank. Constant overthinking. Heaviness. Not sure what to do anymore, or how to get out of this.
Despite rationally not wanting to ever see her again and knowing how bad she was, emotionally I feel mixed. Part of me still blames myself, and if I could've done better? Like I definitely wasn't the best boyfriend either. Part hates her for destroying my mental health and moving on in 2 weeks and blaming me, and another one misses the good times. The duality of her being a super sweet girl one moment and yelling at me for the most random shit the next.
A big part of me is scared I'll never recover and be present in reality like I once was. How do I find myself again?
Was I at fault? Why do I still care about her? Am I going crazy? Is there hope?