My wife and I are not seeing eye to eye when it comes to sex and sexually expressing ourselves.
I want to do an activity with my wife to figure out where her and my boundaries are with regards to what gets us in the mood. Or rather, what sexual fantasies we would be fine with trying but it’s hard coming up with a bunch of scenarios in a non biased way. I say non biased because my wife talks about the male gaze being the bane of every woman’s existence. So, I’m down for figuring out things in terms of the women’s gaze but at the same time I’d like some compromise and not be villainized or rather generalized because I’m a man.
My therapist has recommended coming up with guidelines and doing a value system activity. But, I’m scared that my wife will try to call out the discrepancies with the activities. Plus, I’m afraid she’ll find out I’m too freaky sexually. I’m mainly afraid that my wife will either feel insecure, paranoid, or hurt.
Basically, I want to do activities that are similar to the activities on HBO’s real sex. Only thing is, it requires other people. It’s not necessarily I want to have sex with other people. I want to get horny around other people and have conversations about sex.
I had to figure out if posting this because I don’t want to disrespect my wife.
Before kids we use to go to sex clubs and experiment. Never had sex with other people. But we would watch or be watched. It was an adrenaline rush!
After kids, my wife had expressed she doesn’t want to go to sex clubs anymore. She feels shame and guilt since she’s a parent and older. Which is fine. I can live with that. But, now we’re out of debt and we’re making great money. And I’d like to build a sex room. I’d like to make my home my sex mecca. Get her sexy cosplay outfits. And I want to reach out to other people to help me navigate it. But she sees it as bringing people into our sex life. Plus she had expressed her concerns with emotional connections. She doesn’t want drama or risk any creepers bothering us and our kids.
I get it. With all due respect my wife is a milf. She gets a lot of attention just from existing.
I’m struggling to navigate my needs with her and I because it doesn’t seem like she’s enthusiastic about it. So, I start feeling guilty and I back off. But then I start feeling unheard and upset. And I don’t want to go down the pattern of being passive aggressive or toxic towards one another.
We’ve worked really hard to get where we are at in life. We’ve built up our life and I don’t want cause any issues because I want more freaky sex so I’m feeling frustrated.
We’re both in our mid thirties and have been together for 16 years.

My current boyfriend (M19) and I (F18) were best friends for 4 years before we started dating and have been together for about 7 months now. He moved across the country to study at the start of last year so we were actually long distance best friends for 7 months before we started dating.
He is a very selfless and extroverted guy, whereas I struggle to trust people and open up and am incredibly introverted. My friendship with him actually began because he was the first person I trusted fully in my life and he always tells me that I’m the person he trusts most as well.
After he moved, he made a lot of close female friends and I’ve been okay with it because I’m used to his extroversion and I know he befriends people easily. There was one girl that became particularly close to the point that she is now one of his best friends.
He has been staying in a college thus far but planned to move in with someone at the end of this year. A few weeks ago he told me that his best friend asked him if he wanted to move in with her and he said yes.
Ever since he’s told me that, I’ve been struggling with immense jealousy and I hate this feeling because I want to be understanding and open minded, but I can’t help it. In my head, I have a really big fear of replacement.
We started off as best friends as well and now he’s made another best friend, only, he’s going to be a lot more closer to her than he has ever been with me. He gets to share his first experience of living alone with her. She gets to see him at his most vulnerable and see him in a domestic setting. They get to plan their home and all that stuff, while I’m across the country, living life as usual. I also feel really useless and unneeded now that he’s got her in his life so the fact that he’s moving in with her just isn’t making me feel any better.
I haven’t been able to talk to him about this (a first, because I normally don’t struggle to be transparent with him) because I feel like I’m being irrational, toxic, etc. but this matter hasn’t left my mind for weeks.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can deal with this? Any similar situations and how things went? Any ways that I can calm my mind down? Also, please be nice!!!
Also, sorry in advance for any mistakes — I am VERY new to reddit!

My current boyfriend (M19) and I (F18) were best friends for 4 years before we started dating and have been together for about 7 months now. He moved across the country to study at the start of last year so we were actually long distance best friends for 7 months before we started dating.
He is a very selfless and extroverted guy, whereas I struggle to trust people and open up and am incredibly introverted. My friendship with him actually began because he was the first person I trusted fully in my life and he always tells me that I’m the person he trusts most as well.
After he moved, he made a lot of close female friends and I’ve been okay with it because I’m used to his extroversion and I know he befriends people easily. There was one girl that became particularly close to the point that she is now one of his best friends.
He has been staying in a college thus far but planned to move in with someone at the end of this year. A few weeks ago he told me that his best friend asked him if he wanted to move in with her and he said yes.
Ever since he’s told me that, I’ve been struggling with immense jealousy and I hate this feeling because I want to be understanding and open minded, but I can’t help it. In my head, I have a really big fear of replacement.
We started off as best friends as well and now he’s made another best friend, only, he’s going to be a lot more closer to her than he has ever been with me. He gets to share his first experience of living alone with her. She gets to see him at his most vulnerable and see him in a domestic setting. They get to plan their home and all that stuff, while I’m across the country, living life as usual. I also feel really useless and unneeded now that he’s got her in his life so the fact that he’s moving in with her just isn’t making me feel any better.
I haven’t been able to talk to him about this (a first, because I normally don’t struggle to be transparent with him) because I feel like I’m being irrational, toxic, etc. but this matter hasn’t left my mind for weeks.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can deal with this? Any similar situations and how things went? Any ways that I can calm my mind down? Also, please be nice!!!
Also, sorry in advance for any mistakes — I am VERY new to reddit!

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I've heard something about BHVR ceasing the sale of ugly sweaters in the future, of sweaters that have already been sold previously, or it could be something else. Just want to make sure, as I really want the ugly sweaters for Ada Wong and Rebecca Chambers.

Hello everyone!
Our company is currently seeking talented copywriters who can help us identify and engage with potential clients who are interested in creating videos and commercials. We're looking for someone who is passionate about writing and can effectively communicate the value of our services to potential clients.
Responsibilities:

• Develop and execute a content strategy that supports our company's goals and mission
• Research and identify prospective clients who are in need of video and commercial services
• Create compelling copy for our website, email campaigns, and other marketing collateral to attract potential clients
• Collaborate with the marketing and sales teams to develop creative campaigns that drive new leads and conversions
• Continuously optimize copy and messaging based on performance metrics

Requirements:

• Excellent writing and editing skills with a keen eye for detail
• Strong research and analytical skills to understand client needs and identify new business opportunities
• Experience in writing copy for digital marketing campaigns and understanding of SEO best practices
• Ability to work both independently and collaboratively in a fast-paced environment

If you're a creative thinker who is passionate about using your writing skills to identify new business opportunities, we would love to hear from you. This is a great opportunity to work with a dynamic team and help grow our business by identifying and engaging with new clients.
In order to incentivize our copywriters to identify new clients and help us grow our business, we are offering a generous commission fee of 25% for any new business that is generated through your efforts. This means that for every new client that you bring to our company, you will receive a commission of 25% of the total revenue generated from that client's project.
To apply, please send your resume, portfolio, and a brief cover letter to [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]).
We look forward to hearing from you soon!

I love reading through this sub of all the server adventures out there and thought I'd share my experience. I was a food runner at chilis for 6 months and then became a server for another 6 months and I honestly really liked it! (And I was good at it😉) I started dating a manager at work, which I've never in my 10 years of work kissed let alone dated a co worker but he's worth it :) it just was very secret for obvious reasons. I finished esthetics school recently and have been starting my own business as well as working at a spa so I've been busy with 3 different incomes. Unfortunately my server job was cut short very quick when a co worker caught him being a little too friendly to me when I was getting in my car to leave, and so our boss has to follow policy, someone either transfers or quits. We decided that I, as a busy single mom needed to just quit as it was best, but working last night for the last time was a mix of emotions. My bf is very sweet and wants to help me with finances so that I can be home for my kid more. I'm so so relieved that I won't have to be running around and catering the dumbest requests, scraping half eaten food off plates, or dying of constant heat. Just to name a few lol. But I'll miss my regulars, and the quick cash and most importantly my friends and the everyday restaurant shenanigans. I'm sure I won't need to be a server again, but I absolutely enjoyed my time as one and I'll continue to be entertained by this sub daily :)

Feeling lost and also doomed with my career and it’s weighing on my mental health because I’ve gained no experience in 6 years.
I’m 32, work in fashion at an absolutely dreadful company that everyone says I’m overqualified for. My background is in design, I have a design degree and an MBA. Live in a small town and have a lot of hobbies because those are the only things that make me happy, if you can even call it that. Unfortunately none of these hobbies have netted anything more than 15k in a year. I’ve accomplished a lot in my spare time with the things I love, but financially it’s not enough to get by, just to support my hobbies.
I’ve been at my current job for coming up on 6 years. This place has always been a soul suck. Initially I was hired to do social media but I’ve basically been shifted to sales and data entry and I hate it with a passion. The company structure is extremely terrible. We only have 5 people in the building and coworkers keep quitting due to how toxic management is. We are managed by another company who keeps saying we are all a team and one company but they continue to demoralize and put us down at every chance they get. For example if my in building boss gives me a project, and they find out, I’m instantly stripped of it and then have nothing to do. If I do manage to do what he asks, they will completely redo it. My out of building boss has emailed me no more then 5 times in 2 years since he has been my “boss” yet the CEO insists that my “boss” is keeping me very busy. He’s clearly lying to the CEO. I’ve told everyone numerous times what my skill set is and they just ignore it and think I want to do data entry on 15 year old outdated software that barely runs. So there are times that I have nothing to do for weeks and I feel extremely guilty about that. But when I do have things to do, again it’s either stripped from me or my deliverables are completely ignored by who they’re given to.
The products this company sells are unwanted by almost anyone. We are being squeezed out by china selling direct to consumer but nobody wants to admit that except me and my in house boss.
I’ve been looking for new jobs for 2 years and I’ve only had 2 interviews in a year and a half. The other 100s if not 1000s of applications are ignored. I was starting to think there was something wrong with my resume and I got confirmation of that this week. Monday I went in for an interview at a much bigger company in a related field. I was recommended by a freelance client of mine who is a big believer in my talent. I could tell as soon as I got there that they weren’t interested in me and were just doing this as a favor to my client. They told me I didn’t have any experience for the job even though I’m qualified. So I’ve come to realize that in 6 years at this place I’ve gained zero experience that will help my career in the future. I feel worthless much more than I ever have and now I have no idea what to do. I feel like if I’m not working on something or accomplishing something that I’m wasting my life. Time is running out because this place will be out of business soon and I can’t take it here anymore.

Hello everyone!
Our company is currently seeking talented copywriters who can help us identify and engage with potential clients who are interested in creating videos and commercials. We're looking for someone who is passionate about writing and can effectively communicate the value of our services to potential clients.
Responsibilities:

• Develop and execute a content strategy that supports our company's goals and mission
• Research and identify prospective clients who are in need of video and commercial services
• Create compelling copy for our website, email campaigns, and other marketing collateral to attract potential clients
• Collaborate with the marketing and sales teams to develop creative campaigns that drive new leads and conversions
• Continuously optimize copy and messaging based on performance metrics

Requirements:

• Excellent writing and editing skills with a keen eye for detail
• Strong research and analytical skills to understand client needs and identify new business opportunities
• Experience in writing copy for digital marketing campaigns and understanding of SEO best practices
• Ability to work both independently and collaboratively in a fast-paced environment

If you're a creative thinker who is passionate about using your writing skills to identify new business opportunities, we would love to hear from you. This is a great opportunity to work with a dynamic team and help grow our business by identifying and engaging with new clients.
In order to incentivize our copywriters to identify new clients and help us grow our business, we are offering a generous commission fee of 25% for any new business that is generated through your efforts. This means that for every new client that you bring to our company, you will receive a commission of 25% of the total revenue generated from that client's project.
To apply, please send your resume, portfolio, and a brief cover letter to [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]).
We look forward to hearing from you soon!

Hello everyone!
Our company is currently seeking talented copywriters who can help us identify and engage with potential clients who are interested in creating videos and commercials. We're looking for someone who is passionate about writing and can effectively communicate the value of our services to potential clients.
Responsibilities:

• Develop and execute a content strategy that supports our company's goals and mission
• Research and identify prospective clients who are in need of video and commercial services
• Create compelling copy for our website, email campaigns, and other marketing collateral to attract potential clients
• Collaborate with the marketing and sales teams to develop creative campaigns that drive new leads and conversions
• Continuously optimize copy and messaging based on performance metrics

Requirements:

• Excellent writing and editing skills with a keen eye for detail
• Strong research and analytical skills to understand client needs and identify new business opportunities
• Experience in writing copy for digital marketing campaigns and understanding of SEO best practices
• Ability to work both independently and collaboratively in a fast-paced environment

If you're a creative thinker who is passionate about using your writing skills to identify new business opportunities, we would love to hear from you. This is a great opportunity to work with a dynamic team and help grow our business by identifying and engaging with new clients.
In order to incentivize our copywriters to identify new clients and help us grow our business, we are offering a generous commission fee of 25% for any new business that is generated through your efforts. This means that for every new client that you bring to our company, you will receive a commission of 25% of the total revenue generated from that client's project.
To apply, please send your resume, portfolio, and a brief cover letter to [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]).
We look forward to hearing from you soon!

Hello everyone!
Our company is currently seeking talented copywriters who can help us identify and engage with potential clients who are interested in creating videos and commercials. We're looking for someone who is passionate about writing and can effectively communicate the value of our services to potential clients.
Responsibilities:

• Develop and execute a content strategy that supports our company's goals and mission
• Research and identify prospective clients who are in need of video and commercial services
• Create compelling copy for our website, email campaigns, and other marketing collateral to attract potential clients
• Collaborate with the marketing and sales teams to develop creative campaigns that drive new leads and conversions
• Continuously optimize copy and messaging based on performance metrics

Requirements:

• Excellent writing and editing skills with a keen eye for detail
• Strong research and analytical skills to understand client needs and identify new business opportunities
• Experience in writing copy for digital marketing campaigns and understanding of SEO best practices
• Ability to work both independently and collaboratively in a fast-paced environment

If you're a creative thinker who is passionate about using your writing skills to identify new business opportunities, we would love to hear from you. This is a great opportunity to work with a dynamic team and help grow our business by identifying and engaging with new clients.
In order to incentivize our copywriters to identify new clients and help us grow our business, we are offering a generous commission fee of 25% for any new business that is generated through your efforts. This means that for every new client that you bring to our company, you will receive a commission of 25% of the total revenue generated from that client's project.
To apply, please send your resume, portfolio, and a brief cover letter to [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]).
We look forward to hearing from you soon!

Hello everyone!
Our company is currently seeking talented copywriters who can help us identify and engage with potential clients who are interested in creating videos and commercials. We're looking for someone who is passionate about writing and can effectively communicate the value of our services to potential clients.
Responsibilities:

• Develop and execute a content strategy that supports our company's goals and mission
• Research and identify prospective clients who are in need of video and commercial services
• Create compelling copy for our website, email campaigns, and other marketing collateral to attract potential clients
• Collaborate with the marketing and sales teams to develop creative campaigns that drive new leads and conversions
• Continuously optimize copy and messaging based on performance metrics

Requirements:

• Excellent writing and editing skills with a keen eye for detail
• Strong research and analytical skills to understand client needs and identify new business opportunities
• Experience in writing copy for digital marketing campaigns and understanding of SEO best practices
• Ability to work both independently and collaboratively in a fast-paced environment

If you're a creative thinker who is passionate about using your writing skills to identify new business opportunities, we would love to hear from you. This is a great opportunity to work with a dynamic team and help grow our business by identifying and engaging with new clients.
In order to incentivize our copywriters to identify new clients and help us grow our business, we are offering a generous commission fee of 25% for any new business that is generated through your efforts. This means that for every new client that you bring to our company, you will receive a commission of 25% of the total revenue generated from that client's project.
To apply, please send your resume, portfolio, and a brief cover letter to [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]).
We look forward to hearing from you soon!

Recently, I had to inform my in-laws that I need some time and space. My mother passed away suddenly in May, and then I got married in August and moved to my husband's home state in October. Although we plan to move to my home state in three years, I currently need time to grieve and process my emotions.
Despite my request for space, the next day my father-in-law sent me religious emails that included passive-aggressive comments. I feel disrespected by this behavior and attacked because I'm not white and Lutheran, as if they're trying to force me to conform.
I'm wondering what the best course of action is at this point. Should I approach my in-laws directly and explain how their behavior has made me feel, or should I have my husband mediate the conversation? I want to communicate honestly and directly with them about my needs and feelings, while still approaching the situation with compassion and understanding.

I [28M] got broken up with by my gf [24F] of almost 4 years, just 1.5 months ago. I got blindsided and she cheated on me in the end (see https://www.reddit.com/BreakUps/comments/121iw2c/the_pain_of_being_blindsided/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). I really, really thought we'd go for the long run. We loved each other so damn much and talked a lot about future plans, marrying, kids names and so on. We liked each others families and they loved us and our relationship.
I'm doing all the things that are recommended like going to the gym almost every day, going for a morning walk every day, journalling, talking to friends/family (mostly on phone in my case, I unfortunately don't have a big social circle where I live), distracting myself with work and so on. I live abroad and right now I'm visiting my family and some old friends in my home country.
I still am hurting so badly. I'm by myself in my mum's flat at the moment and broke out into tears 2x today. I grew up in a dysfunctional family environment and think I suffer from CPTSD, so started therapy for it 2 months ago, and that makes things harder.
Due to that upbringing and some bullying in school, I don't think I ever really felt like a mentally healthy, confident, grounded, "whole" person. This breakup now makes me feel so abandoned, worthless, anxious and feels like it throws me back 10 years in my development. She was my one, my everything. My one person to which I let my guard down. And then she leaves me because she "lost feelings". She can't give me clear reasons and says our relationship was great. I treated her like a queen but last year we took each other a bit for granted and both had a very stressful year which affected some areas of our relationship and 4 months ago we had to go long distance (with a fixed end date by the end of this year). It hurts so damn much that she just drops our relationship without ever fighting for it and without ever giving me/us a chance to work on things. She apparently had doubts for months but never told me.
I would still take her back in a heartbeat, because I think I can forgive the cheating (which was a purely physical drunk ONS). And I can't help myself but hoping she realises with some time and space what she threw away and comes back.
I guess I don't really know what I want to achieve with this post. Just needed to write it down. If anyone has some wisdom/advice or their own story to share, please do. Lurking here has been such a source of support for me the past month.

Sharing assumptions and lessons I've learned.
For reference, I had panic attacks 24/7 for a week, then panic attacks every time I stood up for 7 weeks. I'm finally to the point where I can function, it's just extremely difficult. I have a panic attack a day, and due to my skills I've learned, I can manage it appropriately. Though that does not include health anxiety-thats a monster I've yet to conquer lol.
Anyway.
Lesson 1:Hindsight is 20/20. It was coming, but because I'm a working, studying mom I ignored the signs that my body needed self care. I also ignored things that triggered my PTSD. Lesson here-dont ignore, process and move on.
Lesson 2: there is no "I can't take time for myself"- you must. It is a necessity, or else your body will make you and it's not a fun Vacation. It's the 9th circle of hell.
Lesson 3: anxiety is absolutely contagious. A domino effect happened in my house when all of us had different stresses and priorities. It started with my little brother in law, then me, then my mother in law, now my husband.
Lesson 4: You don't want to wait it out. After all who wants to suffer in agony? I know for me, I wanted to end it by ALL MEANS NECESSARY. Every second felt like an eternity. But it will have to take time. Take all that nervous, hypervigilant behavior and funnel it into journaling. Journal your symptoms, thoughts, day's actions, how many panic attacks you've had ect. You will slowly see yourself get better, even if it's just "I took a shower" when you haven't for a week.
Lesson 5: Fear of death. Let go. If you're afraid of dying and you feel like dying, you'll be stuck in a loop. Let go, accept you may not wake up tomorrow. And realize that was the truth before you even had this anxiety. It has been a truth since the day you were born.
Lesson 6: it's okay to not be okay, even if you are the backbone of your home. You are still human. Anyone who doesn't believe this is welcome to join you in the 9th circle and see if they can still say that after a week of it.
Drink some water. Get lost in good thoughts as your subconscious works itself out. Color. Feed your inner child. Do what you must. It's just another sickness to get over, just a really bad and taxing one-and you may catch it again sometime in the future and that's okay too. You got this.

This limited edition vinyl pressing features a 12 page booklet with liner notes by writer David Sims (The Atlantic, Blank Check Podcast) and is pressed on 180 gram Tea Leaves vinyl
This is sold out from the label and I have not seen it for sale anywhere else. I have two copies available. Free pickup in New York City or 5$ US shipped. Looking for 60$ OBO.

I live in San Francisco, and while awaiting approval for my CCW, I have been carrying an Umarex T4E .43 Walther PPQ M2 CO2 replica, with .43 Rubber-steel balls Amazon.com : RUBBER-STEEL BALLS .43 Cal. 100 x Hard Mix Rubber Steel Balls Paintballs 1.8 Grams Projectiles Ammo for Self Home Defense Pistols in 43 Caliber : Sports & Outdoors . These are hard rubber with powdered metal mixed in, rather than a solid steel core covered with rubber, and they weigh 1.8 grams. I use to carry this loaded with alternating rubber-steel balls and pepperballs, until I realized pepperballs were illegal in the US.
Anyways, I had made a run to a 24 hour grocery store at about 3:00 am, had a man walk past me and he said something but I didn't hear what, though I think he asked if I had a cigarette. He yelled a few times, so I stopped and turned around to see what the fuss was, and he was about 20 feet away, pointing a knife at me, looked like a generic ka-bar and started to yell even more, saying he was going to cut me up, then he started moving forward as if he was going to charge me.
Before I realized what I was doing, I had my pistol in my hands, and had fired off 4 rounds into his chest, from about 15 feet. He dropped INSTANTLY, and I thought I had actually killed him, then he started wailing like a little kid, "you got me" "you killed me" "please sir, please sir, call an ambulance, please, I don't want to die" , and that went on for, well, a while, until the police and EMS arrived, at one point he was begging EMS to "call his momma".. This guy had to have been in his 30's, maybe 6'2, 220 lbs or so...
So.. He was wearing a shirt and a "long sleeve shirt" over it, not a sweater, just what seemed like a common white long sleeve cotton shirt. It had 2 blood stains on it. These rubber steel balls, even with the shirt in the way....split his skin open from the impact, and EMS was pretty sure he had broken ribs from the impacts.
I was sort of in shock at just how much damage this thing did. I had done training at a range with it, along with my 9mm CZ

I live with my elderly grandfather, and as he's getting older, he's becoming increasingly paranoid about my safety when I go out. I'm almost 30, so I don't need this kind of control, but I tend to comply because it's easier than arguing (he doesn't see nor hear very well and is overall difficult to reason with because of his age).
He wants to know where I'm going and for how long, and if I don't reply to his texts fast enough while not at home, he starts calling. It can be really annoying when I'm busy, and sometimes I snap and try to explain it to him, but he just backtracks to "you are just scolding your poor old grandpa all the time". Anyway...
Today he went out to get some groceries without telling me, and when he got back, I pointed out the double standard that he is not making me aware where he's gone and when to expect him back. To which he replied, "Well, I'm old and hard to chew, so what's gonna happen to me?" And added with a playful smirk, "Meanwhile you are young and delicious."
Seemingly an innocent remark (and he's not wrong, I guess?) but it made me feel sexualized (by a family member no less) and disgusting. I know I should just treat it as some old man babbling and forget about it, but I've been simply unable to shake off this humiliating feeling today.
I just wish I didn't have to be born in this body, I want to feel like a person and not some kind of "delicious" piece of bait when leaving my home... I'm so exhausted